She said she did not want to be my lover and that she wanted my friendship but I had to accept that she would disappear occasionally. .

I said that was not acceptable to me.

I'm saying this with all kindness. Gabriel, you are going to run the risk of people not responding to your posts anymore because you are not listening to their advice. You've been CLEARLY shown what is going on with your situation, however, you steadfastly refuse heed the advice. You continue to make yourself a martyr to this woman who has ABSOLUTELY no interest in you whatsoever. Soon, your bleeding heart will be completely drained by this woman.

no contact. change your phone number.

What #3 said.

Are you waiting for that one person who thinks it's a good idea? Have you read the replies in your previous threads?

oh wait ! You're just kidding around, right? ha ha ha... that's a good one

Trust me I know its very hard not to take someones calls and to ignore text they send to you when you are feeling so down and they are the person you need the most to make you feel better.

You told your GF what you conditions are and what you will accept as far as you do not want to be just her friend. If you go back on the words you said to her she will never take you serious and is going to continue playing with your emotions.

I hope you can find the strength within you to not answer her and to give yourself time away to begin to heal and sort out all your thoughts. Thinking once you are away from her for a bit you might end up feeling angry when you look back on how you let her treat you. So stop it now.

for every day that he doesn't answer her texts, she is probably going to add another 10.

so, she is probably texting him about 40 times today ...

she is going to try all sorts of things to keep this guy on the hook. she is loving it.

I really think it's time to change your phone number and make sure that she does NOT have the new one. Please ignore any and all further contact with her including emails.

Lucky for you, she does not live near you. It would be extremely easy for you to cut her out of your life and never have to worry about running into her.

Please change your number and ignore all text messages from her until you do.

I have to agree with the other posts...No Contact!

No, and change your number now!

Gabriel,

I say this with kindness--please look into some counseling.

When you say you talk with her and "we have a good time" but the conversations always end with her complaining about you, how can this be a good time? I think your thought process is really skewed and you can't see the abuse she is heaping on you. I'm no expert in codependency, but I see a lot of it here. Please talk to a counselor to see why you would accept this type of person in your life.

And I agree with the other posters. Are you simply waiting for one of us to say, "Yeah, this is a good idea. Go ahead and contact her." We are not going to say that.

This relationship is totally unhealthy for you. Get out of it.