It always amuses me when people get so upset about being defriended on Facebook. It's like "I put up with all your crap and will continue to do so and maybe we will work it out and I still care about you, etc." but the minute you are defriended on Facebook, it's the ultimate, final, written in stone: "It's really over now. I am serious about this and I no longer care about you." And you REALLY know it's over if they block you in addition to defriending you. Hang in there, buddy..don't take FB actions so seriously.

Haha

Well it was sort of the last visual connection I had to her world
A connection
Perhaps...friends....still a hope?

Just made me get real.....it is fully over

I know what you mean about that connection. I stalk my husband on twitter and facebook just to see what he is doing, or if he is online at the same time as me. Crazy!! Got to get control of that!!

Yeah, I have never had a facebook. The whole "defriending" thing sounds way too complicated and I have too much going on IRL to deal with all that.

So sorry you're having to go through this. When my ex defriended and blocked me on FB, it felt like a kick in the teeth. It's total rejection!
I agree with stillbitter and KAW, I have been much better off without the FB drama.

Believe me man, the pain that you feel with the de-friend, is nothing compared to the pain you get when you see something that will break your heart.

This is coming from personal experience. Hang in there, and be STRONG!

Murphy, look at the bright side, you wont be tempted to see her pictures or posts, which sometimes can be so painful! stay strong, you dont deserve that.

Facebook = drama.

And SBJ is correct, you don't wanna see. I was blocked completely. It was for the best. Had I seen the flirty bullshit and known what I know now, it would have hindered the healing process by months.
Luckily, I got briefed on all that crap long after I didn't care and found it quite humorous.

facebook was created for drama purpose because the people who own and operate know it will make the money and profit from it.

I agree with stillbitter as well. I am currently on week six of my separation from my husband. I was the one that changed all of his passwords...his e-mail, Facebook, and anything else he had so that I could no longer know what he was doing. I de-friended him, because I don't want to see him move on. It's tough enough to have left, but to see him move on so quickly would make my progress so much slower. I was also talking to him daily and have cut that out too. We have to heal. I have kids with my husband, but the only contact with me, will be the kids. When he calls, I hand my son the phone. I have nothing else to say to him and when I did this, I finally started to feel better about the future. Am I healed? Heck no! It's going to take much longer than that, but day by day, I do see the pain going away little by little. The anger and pain from checking things we don't want to see will only stall your grieving process. I pray that things get better for you! :)

The constant contact is like a sore that won't heal because you keep ripping off the scab, and then it starts bleeding all over again. Stop ripping off the scab! Scabs are part of the healing process. It's a protective covering that keeps the wound covered while it heals underneath. Stop hurting yourself.

its funny, my ex never had a facebook account or anything. But after we split, I hung with her sister for New Years eve, and New Years day I got a friend request from her.

Ah Facebook, the end all of everything. I suppose I was lucky in my breakup, as the ex and I sat down together and changed our status' together to single, and then emailed our friends to let them know what was going on.

Facebook is also a heavy brick weighted around your neck. You can never move on from your ex because it's the perfect place to continue to "cyberstalk" them, see who they are talking to, what they are up to, a link to anything about them you can get your hands on while you're deep into the pits of depression. Then you can wallow in the happy status', or the pictures being posted that you should've/would've been in, etc. It's torture for those of us that love to torture ourselves.

In the longrun though hun, it'll probably be the best thing she's done for you without realizing it. You need a break, a complete break, from anything and everything connected, in order to start to heal and try and move on.

*Hugs*

Hang in there man. It probably will be for the best thing to help your recovery in the long run although it feels INCREDIBLY painful right now i'm sure. I am also coping with the fact that my ex probably just doesn't want to ever be with me again and it is the hardest thing about the process, trying to let go of the hope to fix things.

The best thing you can do is try to hope for LOVE to return to your life not just this one particular persons love. And in order for that to happen you must heal and start really loving yourself again. We will get through this. Stay strong. :) Reach out if you need someone to talk to.