I can totally relate. My husband deleted, changed his profile to single and then blocked me all before I even realized he had sent me an email that he wanted a divorce. It hurts everyday and I start to blame myself and wonder why I am not good enough or why can he just be done that fast with me. I am stuck in this limbo until he comes back from deployment in feb so we can file papers. I wake up in panic attacks and it's just horrible. I will pray for you and hope we both can move past this pain.

I know that feeling! I left my husband due to infidelity and emotional abuse. He kept making promises to change and said he wanted to fix our marriage. He also kept asking for clarity, "Is this a separation or final?" I told him to consider it final because many things needed to change before I came back. In a few hours he changed his passwords, unfriended me, set his profile to private, and started adding and following other women. Yeah, he sure wanted to fix things huh? I ended up blocking him because I kept looking at the growing list of women and it made me sick.

I really just don't understand what is wrong with some people. Divorce is never easy but there are kinder way to end a marriage.

You would think it would start with a CLUE!!!

I still cry because I mourn the loss of all the good we had in the past, but my anger is solely directed at him and the troglodyte that knowingly threw herself at a married man.

I'm here for you...together we can all get through this nightmare.

Gentle hugs:)
Deb

I felt back at square one...3 months grieving....18 years together
and it's like she walked out yesterday...all over again

and had promised...you'll always be my "best friend"

BULLSHIT

One day you will realize it's better for you that she did. My ex walked out of a 24 yr marriage. Of course for another girl. But didn't really let me go. Said he loved me and divorced couples known to reconcile. I waited 2 yrs for them to end and then we tried again. 6 months later caught him with same girl. Now we are completely out of contact but I wasted 2 1/2 yrs I could have healed. No contact is best if no chance of reconciliation and doesn't look like she wants that.

You don't see it now - but this is in your best interest.

You don't need to see what she's doing. Where she is, who she's with.

It's kinder. I know it hurts, but believe me, you don't need to see that.

I have to agree with stillbitter. I defriended STBX right after he announced he was divorcing me and I'm glad. Apparently he made this really long post about him leaving me for this woman who he worked and waited 25 years for. Puh-lease. Then after him telling me he was committed to making the marriage work I looked on her page. Big mistake. The only thing I found out was that they were still seeing each other. It hurt all over again. Sometimes ignorance is bliss. Once we find something out its hard to undo it. He has since blocked me but I really think it's because he's too much of a coward to face me and face what he's done. Out of sight, out of mind as the saying goes.

Agh.....I just broke the No Contact rule!!!!

I sent an email

"Why did you defriend me?
The final knife
Is it time for lawyers?"

and for me it was day 15

why did you defriend and block me?

Murphy, don't beat yourself up over this. I've done it too and have said far worse to him. We just want answers. Cut yourself a break.

Murphy...

I know it hurts.. all those things they do positive/negative they all feel like just another slice...

It all just goes to prove to us that it's time for us to go.

Time for us to move on to the next phase of our lives.. and the people we are to meet the lessons we are too learn.. not just in relationships with a significant other but all relationships.. I've met some great friends I never would have met had this not happened.. was that why? Was I destined to meet these people to have them help me // me them?

Maybe you have things you are meant to do ... and she can no longer help you on that journey...

I hope you find peace with this.. and are able to move on to what your future is meant to be.

Good night.. sleep well... Murph.

Thank you so much for all the kind words

I just had a fight and rant at her and she said ,,,Fine,,I don't want you to call me and I wont ask how you are

I came so close to breaking the rule already today. Have to communicate about the kids. Did very good on first email. All business nothing emotional. Second one I almost asked if we could try again. Had to stop myself and remember that I have already asked this several times. It is up to him now.