Absolutely. Now legally it probably wouldn't be, but it's definitely not ok in a committed relationship.

I let the x go to the male stripper place.

Well, that brings up a good point. So, if you are comfortable with your partner going to strip clubs..... I know some women and men who don't mind it. A stranger taking their clothes off in a room full of drinking people is no threat.

Someone talking to me about sexual things (not in the context of gaining information) who is not my partner or potential partner is uncomfortable for me. But I have had times in the past where my partner attended strip clubs and I really didn't like that either.

So what is the difference? The level of trust or lack thereof? Or the intimacy of a private message on a cell phone as opposed to a public display?

I think sexting is violating trust and the relationship. Don't go there.

Lynne

If you can do it in front of your partner and they don't mind then no problem. Sexting with some one else while I'm in a relationship is not my thing but to each their own.

I have never and cant. I type with 2 fingers so by the time I type a sentence she will be asleep.

You set the rules for your relationship. You set the boundaries. If you don't like it you say so. If you don' t agree to it you say so. If your partner knows don't like it or don't agree to it and still does it, they are disrespecting you and the relationship.

The question becomes, are you being true to what you want for yourself in the context of the relationship. If not you are not being true to yourself and will come to resent yourself and your partner. If your partner cannot or will not do what you want in the relationship, even after you've given them a chance to change the behavior.

NEXT! DONE! NEXT! Why stay where your wishes are not respected when you could be with a partner who will respect them? Why? Why the fuck stay there?

If it is something the significant other could not know about, I would say so.

However, where it falls on the Cheat-o-Meter will clearly vary from person to person.

*puts phone down*

*picks phone up*

multi-tasking... :)

Jaken some guys use all their fingers to type.

I would rather have a warm body next to me.

If you knew that your spouse would be hurt by reading them, then it is.

My ex had a 'sexting' affair with a woman that we both knew, when I found those emails it nearly killed me.

Finding evidence of his physical affair didn't kill me either.

He never admitted that the sexting affair was an affair until I threatened to send them to his other mistress. The look in his eyes of fear that his perfect, little mistress might suffer a moment of pain is what made him realize that the sexting was an affair.

By the way, it was that look that killed the old me.

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