We married young, my 1st relationship actually.   We have 3 kids, both employed in different career fields.  She's in the medical field typical 8 hr job, 5 days a week.  Am in the food processing business 6 to 7 days a week 10hr shifts.  We mananged to make it work with my schedule but she would always complain.   We had a great marriage, up to the last year.  During this year she started an IG account that eventually gathered a great following (car related) hardly any post of her but i knew since the population of the users within that category where men, i knew that she would be receiving mssgs.  With me working long hours i noticed her IG was consuming her time while I was gone, so much so I would get  home and she would just start to unwind her activities.   I never questioned her about it but she would share alot.  Even the messgs that had personal intentions.   I continued to give her space,  i noticed It took the pressure off me @ work.  She wasnt breathing down my neck sending me mssgs about how life sucked at home,  or complain and ask me what time I was off and to hurry.  Instead she started to handle  it well very well.  She started to change, she would really get irritated at me when i was home, were before it was the opposite (irritated while I  was at work, fine and happy when i was home).   Knowing each other so well, i had a feeling she was taking an interest in a few followers she had.  She would mention and reassured me it was just car talk.  I started to see a sparkle in her eyes when she would get mssgs.  She then started to put her phone on silent when i would get home.  We would watch tv together and seem like every so often she woukd glance over.  It finally came to head.  One Sunday morning i woke up with this heavy feeling (something was wrong) I confronted her amd asked is there something going on.   Are we OK? She responded we were not OK and we havnt  been for months and blamed my job amd my career decisions.   During the  back and forth she used this line alot.  I love you but am not In love with you.  Then we both cried hugged it out and let it rest.  Let me shorten this and i can go in detail when asked questions.  That same day we were going to take a quick afternoon nap when i took off to get a glass of water and came back i sat next to her and saw she had just received 2 DMs she normally opens them with no issues but i noticed her motions were so unnatural and she quicky said lets nap.  I asked her well go ahead open the mssgs.  She refused and got really defensive, i asked is something going on.  She returned to the earlier discussion i told you already I care for you but no longer in love with you,  so she was starting to give reasons why she was talking to this guy follower.  I told her ok we can split, but I have one question?  Did you move on already and been cheating.  She replied no.  So I said fine.  So it shouldnt be a problem opening these.  She freaked then said you know what? am done, i opened  the dm it was a click then disappaer mssg.  The guy was saying miss you and love you too.  Smh then a pic of his bed.  Smh i broke down.  At the moment we still live together am in the living room.  But she continues to communicate with this fella and proceeds to tell me we need to start taking breaks from normal marriage life for each other.  Example one weekend i stay with kids while other can go out stay out and whatever.  I told her i have  no desire in that.   But she has already planned a trip out of  town.   I am devasted i cant function.  I took 3 days off work.  And even now i cant wrap my head around it.  Cant sleep and have  no interest in anything.  Once kids go to sleep it gets worse because then i have no compnay when ibe always had someone to lean on.