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My verbally and emotionally abusive stbx told me for 6 months that he was "exiting stage left" I finially moved out in April. He started coming by almost every day, begging to work it out. I thought anyone can change if they want to, so I said we would see how it goes.
He shows up at my house with steaks , cooks them n the grill. Afterwards he starts bugging me about when we are going to have sex. I told him I'm not having sex unless I want to have sex. He said everything he has done for the last 20 years was for sex. I told him I had been sleeping with him for the last 20 years so he is paid up.He started yelling that he's not going to wait 10 years for me to want sex, so who's filing.
Have you ever been seperated and had them demand sex?
He shows up at my house with steaks , cooks them n the grill. Afterwards he starts bugging me about when we are going to have sex. I told him I'm not having sex unless I want to have sex. He said everything he has done for the last 20 years was for sex. I told him I had been sleeping with him for the last 20 years so he is paid up.He started yelling that he's not going to wait 10 years for me to want sex, so who's filing.
Have you ever been seperated and had them demand sex?
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Well, I wouldn't say "demand", but yes. My STBX is leaving me for another woman, and he can't understand why I don't want to continue having sex with him in the meantime.
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After our seperation, my stbx told me he had basically been done with me for little over a year prior to our decision to split- but that didn't stop him from having sex with me, aside from feeling like a whore for that entire year- there were many times over the course of that year I poured my heart and soul into lovemaking trying to bring back what we once had- Just remember a stiff prick had no conscience.Do not set yourself up to be hurt.
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Well, my stbx didn't exactly demand sex but he sure tried to talk me into it - several times. He always made me feel like the only reason he was in the marriage was for sex, and the housekeeping and cooking services I provided him. You should tell him to take a hike. He doesn't want to work things out - he wants a booty call.
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Ohhhh, Gemini, I wish I'd had that phrase yesterday when he was, once again, trying to talk me into it.
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The guy who never noticed the butterfly on your back- It is not about intimacy- it is about getting off- that is not what relationships are supposed to be about- I used to cry to my stbx that I had had one night stands that were more tender and attentive-sadly that was'nt a jab to make him feel bad- that was the truth.
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You could not pay me to go any where near there with my stbx. Especially now as I see stbx for what stbx really is. A selfish emotionless, uncaring beatch.
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Mine tries all the time. He feels since we are still legally married I should want sex with him. Makes me always wonder why is is being so nice to me... What about my heart and emotions?? I don't think they count for much to him.
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My husband told me the reason he married me was so I would loosen up about sex. What a romantic. He is a porn addict. He makes me sick. The idea of ever sleeping with him again after some of the stunts he has pulled makes me want to spew!
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Misty, yes I've had one night stands that were more tender and attentive too. Pretty sad, huh?
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My stbx never stops with his "propositions". I'll tell him to keep his hands to himself and he gets this shocked dumb look on his face and say,"Why not? We ARE married!" As though that gives him permission to use me whenever he wants! I don't freakin' think so! I'm pretty sure he's not doing "without", he just wants what he can't have!
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Sorry about that. God I don't know what to say I THOUGHT when my husband said he understood that I was not IN love with and therefore did not want to have sex with him that he actually understood. I however was wrong b/c he seems to have forgotten all about that loooong conversation we had and bluntly(not mean just not exactly wooingly)says he wants to have sex with me b/c I am hot and I gave him an erection. ???? so God only knows b/c I don't get it either.
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wow i didnt know this was happening to everyone and not just me. My husband and i are seperating but i am still living here til i figure out what to do. He still trys almost every night to have sex with me. He tells me he loves me and bla bla bla....Wake up the next day and nothing changes..
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If he's demanding sex then he doesn't give a crap about the marriage. He just wants someone who's convenient. File the papers and tell him to take a hike. That's just wrong!
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hey girls as a man that is not perfect my wife walked out saying do not love you , i helped her get the apartment, gave $ for furn--and have had the two kids all time byt very little--2 overnights in7 weeks--she is making her own life--ok i guess--i still want her as my love but have not pled her or tried to have sex with hwr--i do say we are still married but does not give any permission --so not all stbx are the same i am learning my mistakes she just does not recognize any of hers whatever they are
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Darryl, you sound like a good guy. I can really only speak for myself but I don't think anyone meant to generalize; I just shared my similar story as did the other ladies.
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