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Separation but under one roof?

cbhmom
cbhmom

Living as roommates We have chosen to do this for our kids and to slowly take apart what 16 years took to build. He works overnight away from the home 2 on 3 off so to speak so we will have separate rooms.  Trying figure out ground rules on this .... I’m so sick and lost but at least he wants the kids to be ok and that’s all that matters to me  any suggestions on how to make this work the best it can ? 

refurb
refurb
look, you send a conflicting message to your kids, you want to co-parent with your stbx that seems to cheat on you, cheating is not respect, you'll kids will wonder how solid the principles are that the co-parents profess

you be their mom, let cheat daddy parent on his own,
LostAndy
LostAndy
If you both dislike each other in the end, and you both feel relief in divorce, it might be easy. But, if there is grief, you will cry often.
Jeb333
Jeb333
I'm in the same situation too. I met my husband later in life (we were 47)….my red flag went up when I realized he was never in a relationship longer than 1 year but he assured me that he was waiting for "his soulmate" and that was the only reason....blah blah blah. Last month, a day after my 52nd birthday....he informed me that "he apologizes, but marriage just isn't for him and misses being alone". Uggg…… so just like that, I'm living in the same house with him while we figure everything out. For me personally....I'm going to try to physically separate as soon as possible or otherwise the "healing" period can't begin.
Dhonesty
Dhonesty
I am soo sorry you are hurting. I am currently going through my 2nd divorce at age 36. I feel like , I am the one who is pushing for it more. My spouse seems to be dragging her feet. She is passive aggressive and every moment is a different turn for me. This, is why, I WANT OUT! We are also under the same ruff. If she drags her feet I will push her out.
Sorry, Enough about me.
You mentioned, not really being at the place of letting go. I encourage to seek professional help from a counselor. Talking, to someone will help you self reflect. They will also help you identify, why you still want to hold on. Marriage, is so complicated because each person can sometimes have a completely different experience than the other. Stay encouraged and please don’t try to go through these emotions alone.