Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
My wife and I had our last and final joint counselling session. We were married just over 10 years. About a year and a half ago, I started an emotional affair with another woman. Sex was offered, but I declined. I told my wife what was happening two months into the relationship. Naturally, she blew up. We began a long road of therapy, counselling, anti-depressants (for me), psycho-therapy. Early into the recovery process, I said I would stop communicating with the woman and I did...up until 4 months ago. My wife found out that I started it up again and that's when we separated. During our final counselling session, she required that I stop communicating with the other woman. I had anticipated this, gave it alot of thought prior to the appointment, and finally said that I didn't want to do that. And, that has been the deciding factor in terminating our marriage.
So now, as is probably a common thread in this discussion group, I feel like I unloved, without friends, pathetic, and unbearably lonely. So lonely that I struggle to communicate the gravity of the feeling through words. I have friends, loved ones, etc., but it just doesn't feel real now.
The woman who I was in an emotional affair with is dating another man now and she seems happy. We' seeing eachother tomorrow night and I feel scared. I don't know what she expects to happen. She knows I want to be with her and I know she's attracted to me. She wants to be supportive, but, arghhh.
There's so much more to this story, but I've been thinking about it too much.
Hugs?
So now, as is probably a common thread in this discussion group, I feel like I unloved, without friends, pathetic, and unbearably lonely. So lonely that I struggle to communicate the gravity of the feeling through words. I have friends, loved ones, etc., but it just doesn't feel real now.
The woman who I was in an emotional affair with is dating another man now and she seems happy. We' seeing eachother tomorrow night and I feel scared. I don't know what she expects to happen. She knows I want to be with her and I know she's attracted to me. She wants to be supportive, but, arghhh.
There's so much more to this story, but I've been thinking about it too much.
Hugs?
Thanks again.
You are going to feel empty until you figure out who you really are instead of the person you pretended to be while you were married. The woman you used to get yourself out of the marriage may not be someone in your future. That relationship is so tainted with the marriage that it may not be workable.
Good luck.
My best advice is to seek counselling. Therapists and counsellors are so great at helping you understand where your emotions and behaviours are coming from and they will provide you with great tools to behave in a more constructive manner which will ultimately help you find the peace and happiness you need.