seriously??? I cannot even imagine! I do nothing with my kids without talking to my husband first. That's absurd! I'm so sorry

Why did she do it?

I agree, this is something you both should have discussed.

Totally agree, this is not okay.

I've told my kids forever...

It's the only free education that they're ever going to get! So love or hate their teachers...they might as well take full advantage of it.

She did it because she wants to be checked completely out of life. She no longer wants to parent. I did not answer her texts, I instead called the school to get the story. Then I texted her to let her know I was informed. She responded "real mature". Maturity is owning your crap, which she can't seem to do.

Did he know about it? What this is wrong.

Can you unwind the withdraw from school?

What does your child want to do?

Was there any educational issue, beyond your ex-wife's attitude. I mean, with your kid.

Evidently he has been skipping a lot. Failing every class. He is a really smart kid, dealing with really crappy circumstances. I asked the school why was I not informed and they said they will get back with me. I have an appointment with attorney set for next week. The school suggested that it is a good alternative and he will still be able to use for getting into college. It is a program through a private school, you take a few tests and get your diploma.

I have a stepdaughter who is failing school too. She basically wasted two years of her life not doing the work--her mom not dealing with it, and myself not legally able to do a darn thing--except pay for everything (duh?).

That said, the school has an alternative school available. It consists of home-based course work on a computer mixed in with some at school classes.

I was told that when a kid ditches so much and the parent and the kid do not deal with it, there really is no way to make it up in the remainder of the class year. An alternative has to be done.

If you only focus on your fury that you were not informed by your ex-wife, you kind of miss the point.

Yes, you should have been informed. But do you stay connected to your kid and check the school work? Or ask over time, how the kid is doing in school? Some schools have online parental access to progress reports and attendance. Did you have that? Can you get it?

I'd say that the most important thing to do is to pursue the best option for your child's success in school. Identify and resolve whatever it is that resulted in ditching and failing classes. mental illness, emotional problems, drugs or booze, bad friends, whatever.

Teenagers are difficult. Teenagers in a divorce situation even more so.

I feel for your son, I hope he can get into
Some type of counseling.

He probably has guilt from bringing it to Your
attention. I pray he can get the help and get
healed and squared away.

Divorce is brutal on adult children never
Mind one still in school. HUGS

Jim he us the one that discovered the affair and had to tell me, then a few weeks later he found the private messages which confirmed physical affair. He has had to handle being a senior, the loss of a respected mother, a grandparent dying, and now our separation. The kid has had a hack of a year. We are closer than we have ever been as a result of this mess.

I figured it was the impact on him from the sh!tstorm. I hope you both heal from it. Keep your eye on the ball!

This definatly helps make it easier to detach. She texted me that we will always have a son together blah blah blah. Save it for court

As a parent I do not understand why she would do that and then not to involve you to even speak to your son to find another solution . I am going through a divorce as my stbx gives a new meaning to the word dead beat dad, our son the is 16 and in 11 grade had a heck of year with bad grades missing time where last year summer school was suggested but I can't afford summer school, So I sat down with our son and I explained to importance of a education and to carry that education through to college . Yeah he did ask " can I get my GED and start college ? I looked out the window and when he asked what are you looking at ? I said I am looking for flying pig because when pigs fly is when you will take a short cut with your education . Long story short he brought up his grades and is staying on top of it. I am so sorry you are dealing with this, how sad for your son , I am sure he is a smart young man and going through a hard time but what she did was wrong. Hang in there and do your best to be there for your son .