I seriously doubt that the cheaters are treated with respect in public. That is only YOUR perception because you have not yet realized your own self-respect! There is no shame in being divorced -- especially if you divorced due to HIS cheating!
Give yourelf some time to adjust to your new reality. Trust me, it DOES get better. MUCH better if you don't have to see the X around, but if and when you do, just remember: He got exactly what he THOUGHT he wanted -- but his life is also fraught with guilt and consequences!

I do agree that it is probably your perception. I've spent the past 4 years wondering why my ex was "different" with subsequent girlfriends than he was with me. Yes, we are all different with different people and especially when we learned a lesson, but honestly he hasn't been THAT different. He still fights the same demons and has the same hurdles. As far as being treated with respect, I doubt anyone would want to advertise infidelity so I imagine it's not something everyone knows about or especially knows the details, like you do. So again, it could just be your perception but the previous poster does make a good point in developing your own self-respect. When you are at that point, what he does or did in the past won't hold as much weight as it does now.

I have to commend you for not going totally berserk when they showed up. My daughter had an event this weekend and at the shear mention that the other woman might show up, I went crazy. I told my stbx that if his gf showed up, I would set up camp in our driveway all week.

Background info. He treated me like crap, verbally and emotionally. Recently I learned he had been having affairs during our entire marriage. Towards the end of the marriage. Things got really bad. He threatened to hit me and told me to get out of "his house". Even though it was my 401K that made the down payment and the 13 years I put into everything else. Four months after I moved out, he moved her in with her 3 kids. My name is still on the dead and the mortgage. So by all rights, I can do what ever I want down there. Including, sunbatheing in my pool anytime I want. At this point, I am putting some serious consideration in doing just that.

I'm still bitter. Having a hard time letting go. Counseling is not working. Getting ready to go to another class for abusers. I'm hoping it will help me get thru my anger.

So as I said. I bow down and commend you for holding your head high. You did nothing wrong and they are not receiving respect they are being laughed at. He's walking around with a younger woman on his arms who eventually will get bored and walk away.... ((((HUGS)))))

I feel your pain....My middle daughter is turning 18 soon and I guess they are going to throw a party for her and I am of course to go....so I have to see my X w/ the OW whom of course use to be my friend (but behind my back I think there was something going on w/ them {that I didn't know about}) .... Apart of me wants to find a guy that they don't know ask him to go w/ me and pretend to be so into me that isn't funny but tastefully since it is my daughters birthday but a BIGGER part of me says to go in there w/ my head held high like I don't give a damn...Which is of course what I am going to do....but In my opinion people who were OUR friends treat her like she has been there the whole time...like I was never there....none of them even talk to me...if they see me in public it is all small talk.....I am trying to find counseling but the ones i have called so far don't take my insurance or is too high for me to afford...but i am not giving up.....

Our state has counseling based on income. I know what you mean. My exh is a monster, but he goes to church with his head held up high with the ow. I saw my ex b in that picture with his ow and child. She is smiling. She has no idea he is cheating on her, just I didn't have any idea about her. I know now. I won't contact her or him. Karma will take care of him. I feel sorry for her. she has no idea. Even though it is hard, I am so glad I know now.