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pattongb 02/14/2008

Im supposed to go over there and have dinner with her and the kids and play some board games with her.

Im not going to do it. I just emailed her and told her im not coming.

She spent last night with her boyfriend, now she is supposed to have me come over and 'hang out' with her? No way. Seeing her face is just going to set me back right now. I need some space.

It sucks because it would be another opportunity for me to see the kids. But right now her house (our house) makes me uncomfortable so id rather not see it anyways.

Looks like just me and a couple of movies and some wine tonight.

deleted_user 02/14/2008

I would at least pick up the kids and take them back to where you are.

deleted_user 02/14/2008

I admire you resolve and hope for your sake and mental well-being that you are able to stay strong!

pattongb 02/14/2008

Oh I would pick up the kids, but its her night. I wont let me not wanting to see her stop me from getting the kids believe me.

I am just missing a chance to see them by seeing her. But I probably need to get used to that if I want to get over her.

deleted_user 02/14/2008

I know exactly where your coming from if i saw my ex it would kill me

Take Care xx

deleted_user 02/14/2008

I think sometimes that there is an expectation that "we will remain friends." After all, "we are adults, and mature about these things."

At the end of the day, you need to decide whether you like your ex as a friend. If the answer is no, don't get drawn into doing "friend" things.

And more importantly, dont let her use your children as a bargaining chip for your friendship or your company.

Loved1 02/14/2008

In the long run hopefully you will be better for them if you allow yourself to heal. Breakups are messy for sure! Good for you.
PS hope you take it easy on the wine, healing will happen faster w/out overindulgence.

deleted_user 02/14/2008

I admire your strength.Maybe you should call the kids and give them an explanation why you wont be there tonight and how much you cant wait to see them when its your day

deleted_user 02/14/2008

You are like me. I find the less I am around him the better I seem to do at healing.
Mine feels like we should be friends as well but as I have told him. I would like to think that my friends wouldn't treat me as badly as he has treated me so I don't want him for a friend.

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