Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
He just called me, said the divorce would cost him 10K, me more. He offered to give me $6,000 a month. Said we could do a non contested divorce. He got upset and got off the phone. Why is he upset? I am the one that doesn't want the divorce. He said what are you doing, I said nothing and that is the truth. I haven't been doing anything. He says our relationship was unhealthy that's why he started losing weight. I am losing the weight now. He called at work so he would have to get off the phone. I don't believe this.
Do it yourselfy. I know some that have and it
Worked out. Those are uncontested divorces
Where both parties want out and are acting
maturely, sanely And with integrity. And there
Are answers to the finances and how to split
Everything up.
There were all kinds of legal mumbo jumbo i never
Even understood to cope with. After i was divorced
i had a legal Decree that had power and control and
he is abiding It by the letter. He hates my guts, so be
it not my problem. HUGS
If you don't stop your obsessing and take action, six months from now, when he's on his honeymoon in the Caribbean with the other woman and you can't pay your bills, we will be reading a suicidal post from you on the depression forum.
YOU don't know what assets you have. You don't know what he's got hidden. An attorney will find out.
Your knowledge is limited. Stop thinking and take that one piece of advice. Lawyer.
She beat every bush she could to find
any hidden assets. He did not have any
That we found. We were joined at the
Hip financially.
Whatever came after the Marriage was
on the table. I did not touch his family
Stuff.
Many times when they are checked out
The planning and scheming has been In
the works for awhile. They were just Awaiting
the right partner.
They want their Money to maintain their
lifestyle and status in society. Divorcing
Is a costly and life changing event after
A long term marriage and if there are
Under age children involved. HUGS
Read carefully.
If your doctor stbx can pay you 6K a month, MOST lawyers will take your case
Your ex knows this. The last thing he wants is for you to stick up for your rights.
He will do and say anything to dissuade you. This is why YOU MUST NOT DISCUSS THIS WITH HIM!
Retain the attorney asap and refer any questions your ex has to him/her.
One more time - an attorney is going to make sure his support payments are legally binding, and chances are your ex will have to pay YOUR legal fees. He knows this, and will try to talk you out of it.
You MUST be strong for yourself now. You MUST.
As was written above, get copies of all important financial paperwork, if he hasn't moved the papers already. Spouses DO hide things, especially if they have financial resources. Spouses DO lie, even to their lawyers. Stbx says I have millions hiding in an account. A lock box, to be precise, I guess at a bank? I did receive an inheritance after my mom passed, but no where near what he thinks, there are 9 kids in my family, it all got divided up. Plus, he spent most of that money. Now he wants more, when there is no more? I would never think of lying about finances, never. Facts are facts, they all come out in the end, as long as you have documentation. I worry about the speed at which your husband wants to move. He's plotting, I think.
You come first now, remember that and protect yourself.
Is this a scare tactic, to get you to agree to the 6K?
Because he's trying to screw her royally.
My fear is that she's going to allow this.
Ugh. It's like watching a bad accident unfold and you're powerless to stop it.
I hope you take the advice, emotional depression is enough on it's own without the added weight of financial despair and debt :'(