Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
He just called me, said the divorce would cost him 10K, me more. He offered to give me $6,000 a month. Said we could do a non contested divorce. He got upset and got off the phone. Why is he upset? I am the one that doesn't want the divorce. He said what are you doing, I said nothing and that is the truth. I haven't been doing anything. He says our relationship was unhealthy that's why he started losing weight. I am losing the weight now. He called at work so he would have to get off the phone. I don't believe this.
Your options. I did not trust my cheating spouse
To be honorable toward me. He said he wanted
To do it ourselves and he would be fair. He did
Not play fair during the whole divorce.
I was working and we paid the two lawyers out
Of joint money. We paid all the bills out of joint
money. Many dont do it that way, the bills were
more Than i made to live at the house. HUGS
Please consult with an attorney.
My ex anymore. I trusted him during
Half of the marriage, the last 12 years
with him was not good.
He was really going to willingly give me
50-50 and there were no good answers
To our financials unless i gave in to him.
Plus i get a small amount of alimony
for 10 years. No children.
To me it was Worth having a lawyer in
my corner, Watching out for me and my
rights And she had my back. I was an
Emotional mess not capable of making
Important lifetime decisions. This is your
Financial future she kept reminding me.
Every area is different in cost, i think my
Divorce cost 10k for both of us together.
It was 10 months start to finish. It does take
Longer and cost more with lawyers. There
Are lawyer/mediators out there too. HUGS
You really need to listen to the advice about getting a lawyer. Your husband doesn't care about you, and he already has a lawyer--------That should tell you something and when he says he will give you this much money, and by the way, YOU do not need a lawyer.......The biggest red flag of all has just gone up.
Please, if nothing else get a lawyer, and DON'T tell him anything you will be doing or he will try and undermind you.
A womans shelter would probably know of a good lawyer for you. . Please get one, your husband is only out for himself.
DO NOT LISTEN TO HIM. DO NOT DISCUSS THIS WITH HIM. HE IS NOT LOOKING OUT FOR YOUR BEST INTERESTS.
GET A LAWYER. ASAP.
He's upset because he doesn't want to be bothered. You told him you were getting a lawyer, didn't you? He's upset because he wants to call the shots, give you what he pleases, and for you to crawl under a rock and die.
Wake up. Please. He isn't coming back.
I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but you need to understand what's going on here. It's over.
Do not negotiate with him. You are NOT equipped!
Get a lawyer NOW.
LAWYER!
Or honey you will get royally screwed
What he says and what he's going to do are two different things.
For the millionth time, do not discuss this with him.
You better believe it because he's moving on.
Don't allow him to leave you in a lurch.