Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
So I'm waiting on hubby to come home, he is coming to see the kids and he says he is leaving, I begged him this morning to stay and he said he couldn't. My head hurts, I feel like my life is spiraling and I dont have control of my life anymore. We've been married for almost 11 years and I just can't let it go. We've been at this for almost a year now, him confused, happy one day, unhappy the next, involved in an emotional affair that he can't or don't want to break free, feelings for this other woman he can't shake, wanting to work things out but can't get her of his mind. I feel defeated, rejected, loveless. He is leaving/deploying with the military in 3 weeks, gone for a year. Can't get rid of this feeling of doom. Need to face the truth but it just hurts. Sounds like I'm rambling but I just needed to write.
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Hello- I am new to the group
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My therapist really knocked some sense into me last Friday about my spending. She said that there are needs and there are wants. She said that there is always going to be cheap stuff to buy, but do I need it? The answer is mostly "no". So today, I am taking back some things that I bought online at Kohl's, namely a 9 x 12 rug and a quilt for my bed. I also bought sheets that I don't need...
His emotional affair is something you should not put up with. Try if you can to see it as his problem and weakness.
not a reflection on you
In my H's case. I think it was/is simple lust. And that's too bad. By the time he realizes what a huge mistake he has made, I will be moved on.
I Pray anyway. That I Can move on. It has been 10 months (4 of which we are apart from each other) and I still have panic attacks.
I turned 50 yesterday. Alone and uncertain. My marriage was 32 years. The amount of years, some say matter. I don't see how. You are losing something the same as we all did. IT is Hard.
Hang in there. Get help. Keep posting.
Keep on working on your goals, and use a tissue or towel to wipe up the tears as you heal your self.
You're not rambling, you're venting in a safe place. This helps you to keep your calm when he's around.
Hang in there, you're not alone!
The only way to get over the pain is to go through the pain.
We are here to listen, support, vicariously cry with you.
All the best to you!