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blixxa 12/08/2011

So things in my life started looking up for me. I got a match.com account, started doing things daily to make myself feel better, was saying positive things to myself in the mirror everyday; things were ok! Then I started getting the calls and the texts from the exs family/mutual friends. My ex fiancee moved back (he moved 4 hours away) with his biotch of a GF (no one likes her, even my friends kids say they dont like her). They are living together after seeing eachother for just over a month. I will end up seeing them around town and its like he moved back just to rub it in.

So what did I do? Cancel my account on match, sold my xmas tree and cried every night. I dont know what the hell I did wrong. Why did he toss me away? I have a feeling he was seeing her when we were still together. I hold it together at work, but as soon as I come home I curl up in a ball and die a little. I dont know how to feel better again. I think I was just putting ona good front last week. I just feel empty, alone and confused and I have no one in this stupid town to talk to! Why cant I feel better? I have a feeling I will never be loved again.

Sorry for typos, crying lots

deleted_user 12/08/2011

I know how you feel read my situation its very similar and i dont know how to move on or anything just know your not alone... hang in there please i know how hard this is... all i do is cry as well but its ok to grieve... you morning the loss of loved one and its better let the emotions out then keep them bottled up inside until you explode... time is the only healer... I now have practice what i preach :'( just hang in there.

deleted_user 12/08/2011

I think it's good that you are crying. You are grieving, and that is such hard work, and grief can make you do some strange things. So glad to know that you can keep it together during work. I was not able to do that. I am sorry to learn that you cancelled your match.com account and sold your Christmas tree, but I guess what's done is done.

You are strong enough to get through this. There is life after a break up. Know this. Yes, it huuuuuurrrrtttts. I felt the pain physically and was so tired I had to take a nap every day. It does get better.

deleted_user 12/09/2011

So because he moved back, you decided to attack yourself? Why?! Get back on Match.com and meet someone. Put your festive decorations back up; why would you be so self-depracating. I mean seriously, he's just a man...did he make the sun rise, did he put the breath of life in your body; did he find a cure for cancer or the common cold! What makes him that exceptional...absolutely nothing.

Don't allow another person make you attack yourself. You were doing great, go back to what your were doing...you will be just fine even if he and the biotch moved back...LOL.

deleted_user 12/09/2011

Insightful44, you have made the statement of the decade: "Don't allow another person make you attack yourself." Blixxa, sometimes you have to 'fake it until you make it." This isn't saying play false to how you feel, it just means that you should continue to do good things for YOURSELF WHETHER YOU FEEL LIKE IT OR NOT. Go back to doing uplifting things for yourself, whether or not your heart is in it. In time, you will find that your heart really is in it. I'm wishing you comfort.

deleted_user 12/09/2011

I know how you feel. My ex's new gf the one he left me for lives very close to me and I don't want to go anywhere in fear of running into them, but I tell myself everyday what are the chances of us really running into each other. We have to live our lifes. I know it hurts but we have to try to live again. Cry all you want don't hold it inside it will help you heal.

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