Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Hi Everyone, hope you've had a good day so far! I'm not going to lie - it's been a pretty rough day for me. I had previously posted that I have to work in the same building as my ex, who is now dating another co-worker four months after we split up (we were in a three year relationship). Fortunately, she works in a different building, but I do run into him. I keep obsessing over thoughts of him and her (saw the two kissing in the parking lot) and recently found out they went to an out-of-town wedding together. I'm trying to get past this, but my damn mind keeps getting stuck. He had prior alcohol issues while we were together, and is a daily weed smoker, but holds down a very successful job. I keep ruminating over the thoughts of what I know they've done together, and the fairy tale I've built up in my head. Pretty sure they're going to announce their engagement, that they're adopting three children, and have been elected as the town's Most Perfect Couple.
I've been seeing a therapist, but still seem to stay stuck. I know it's going to take time, but there seems to be a definite underlying issue of inadequacy that I'm experiencing. Anyone else feel this way, and if so, how did you deal? I appreciate it!
emotion during my separation and him having a GF. It took putting in
another thought before rejection could be felt. Always Staying ahead
of your reaction to that feeling. HUGS
kbbcoop77, thanks for the feedback. We were actually dating for a year and half before he began working there. He was able to get a job, and was working in the other building, but was recently promoted to a new position, and is now in the building I work. I definitely understand the lesson with not dating co-workers - don't think I'll be doing that in the future, though! :) I think it's just crazy that he decided to date a co-worker. Sucks having to see it, ya know?
Out like say her comes the dirtbags. Don't let yourself Feel
that rejection stop it dead in its tracks. Stay mindful push It
away. Mine was overwhelming me and i did not even See
them together. Its how i felt, it went with my abandonment
issues. HUGS
I am doing okay it is just such a slow process,
I have all these new issues now to cope with and
they Are divorce and me related. I have a lot of
anxiety, Mild depression and stress. I hope every
Day to wake up and feel normal. HUGS
had was anxiety until it got real bad and
I had to really look at it. Once i could see
what It was, I could cope a little bit better.
HUGS