Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
You know I was handling things well enough recently...actually in the mad stage (which is good for me) but a friend of his and mine came to see us today...and we sat and chatted (his wife cheated on him and they are since divorced) and I broke down. All the fucking rotten feelings of betrayal...adultery..etc. just came flooding back right now and I'm a bawling mess. I asked him if my H wanted a divorce and he said NO he really didn't think so but it will have to happen b/c you will never trust him and doesn't think this could be reconciled. I agree, which is why I'm a bawling mess. His friend said the OW is a dirty whore (insert smile here) and my H knows it. I think he knows he's made the biggest mistake. I told him about the concert and the OW texting me...and he said my H was pissed, actually shaking. His friend said to him see what you are getting into...she will just screw with you wife to be nasty. I need her gone. I told his friend that my H repulses me and disgusts me and that I am only here for these boys right now. His friend told him he NEEDS to move on and get out and get an apt so everyone can heal. Hope my H takes his advice. I've tried but he won't leave. I don't know...I'm in such a state right now..the fetal position actually just sobbing. I hate him for doing this to me and the boys. I know I need to suck it up but I cannot right now...I just cannot.
Yes, a marriage of two loving, respectful, caring adults is the best parent in the world, we all hope for this. But a marriage of deceit, infidelity, disrespect, loveless marriages is never healthy for the kids.
It was a tough decision for me to leave that life, but now that I have done it, and have moved on, I am healthier, the kids are happier, and I try to teach them everyday, that true love, respect, and compassion is the only way to go. Hopefully, when it is their time, they will find that true love, and you will find it too, now that you know what to look for. You can't beat yourself up over decisions that you made in the past, learn from them. The past is the past, the future is the future, live in the today
Take this time to cry, get it out.... then let's move on! Hugs to you my friend.
Pain happens, and I know from being a parent that you want to protect them from every bump and scrape, but this hinders them from learning from this with you... they will not hate you for being honest, but be honest in a caring and a compassionate way, that is the only advise I can give about that.
The set backs, they will come less and less with each passing day... trust me! just don't dwell on the set backs.