I have both my original wedding ring and the replacement. The original was warped long ago but I wore it anyway until there was a replacement. The replacement is still inside the envelope it was placed into after I threw it away during group therapy in hospital. That action signaled my knowing it was done, all 18 years and nearly 19. The divorce is finalized. I feel nothing toward my ex. Absolute acquaintance only.
Now, back to the subject. Neither ring is valuable. They're both basically pot metal with a tiny bit of silver to make them shine. No monetary value. No personal value. I believe that these being from an abusive relationship and both supplied me by the abuser there to be bad energy with them. They need to be destroyed.
Any suggestions on how? Hammer, melt, grinder, what? I could electrically weld them into an ingot then discard the ingot even. I don't want them used by anyone for anything.
This would signal the end of the binding for me. It means I have nothing for her or from her. I've also started selling and even giving away gifts she had given me over the years. That was a horrible relationship and I'm proud of myself for getting away permanently.
I am at a better place with my ex and his wife than I have ever been. I can actually have a conversation with him on the phone and keep my cool. When either one of them does something annoying I just do an eyeroll, chalk it up to them being them, and move on with my life. What I'm struggling with is the double identity crisis. Years ago I went to going away party for my mother when she...
This is a link by Darlene Lancer https://www.whatiscodependency.com/trauma-abuse-breakups-divorce-ptsd/#more-13463 about abusive relationships and moving forward.After reading this and speaking to my therapist by phone today, as I progress through the begining of trauma work I'm finding that this article speaks to 'me codependent' to what I hope to achieve Some Day as 'Me, healed of...