Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I have both my original wedding ring and the replacement. The original was warped long ago but I wore it anyway until there was a replacement. The replacement is still inside the envelope it was placed into after I threw it away during group therapy in hospital. That action signaled my knowing it was done, all 18 years and nearly 19. The divorce is finalized. I feel nothing toward my ex. Absolute acquaintance only.
Now, back to the subject. Neither ring is valuable. They're both basically pot metal with a tiny bit of silver to make them shine. No monetary value. No personal value. I believe that these being from an abusive relationship and both supplied me by the abuser there to be bad energy with them. They need to be destroyed.
Any suggestions on how? Hammer, melt, grinder, what? I could electrically weld them into an ingot then discard the ingot even. I don't want them used by anyone for anything.
This would signal the end of the binding for me. It means I have nothing for her or from her. I've also started selling and even giving away gifts she had given me over the years. That was a horrible relationship and I'm proud of myself for getting away permanently.
At the beginning now i am not so sure. They are
Just gathering dust, maybe i will just sell them
And get a different necklace charm in exchange
For the diamond and the gold.
Its all personal choices, i still have photos and i
still look at them. Its my past with everyone in
there including my Wedding photos. He took 1/2
of the photos for himself, i bet he did not take any
Wedding ones, who knows.
Don't judge yourself be gentle and kind, its all one
Big journey to healing, growing and changing. My
Emotional self is not on a time line and my grief is
Very real. One day to a time. HUGS
I'm going to take a broken brick (as a broken piece of the foundation), melt the rings into the crevices (attach the burden and the broken promises), and throw it into the river(sinking it like the relationship) forever. I could keep it, but I believe this to be symbolic enough to signify finality.
There's no monetary value, and I don't want these rings nor their metals to be used by anyone else. I believe them to contain bad energy. The rings are basically pot metal, and came from a store that sells all manner of kitsch. It cost about $10. And to think I had intended to tattoo the pattern onto my ring finger this year. Glad I hadn't done that yet. The next sentence will sound odd, but I'm always looking for a positive these days. I'm thankful for my total breakdown in December. It helped me realize just how bad things were.
Body it does not lie. Often your gut was
trying to tell you something but we did
not listen to it or to our common sense
HUGS
1. Panic attack. Sometimes my body decides I'm having one in my sleep, right before waking up. Sucks but eh.
2. Craving alcohol, tho I've never had an addiction. I've chosen not to drink in solidarity for those with alcohol problems.
3. Feeling hungry to cover distress, depression, or other feelings I don't like.
4. Pain from mental distress.
5. All bipolar symptoms.
6. Not thirsty even tho I've not had a beverage in several hours.
7. Sweating for no known reason including no distress.
.........
My body lies.
About listening to your own body. I don't
Really know much about being bipolar,
Some seem okay others really struggle
And act out.
I like to think of myself as being spiritual
And in getting in touch with my feeling and
Emotions and not stuffing them anymore
And learning to listen to myself and really
Pay attention to the uncomfortable F&E,
Face them And let them go. HUGS
I'm working at better spirituality. I believe everyone and everything all to be of the same energy, with no beings to blame or praise. You get back what you put in tho. I study Patanjali's Yoga Sutras primarily, and other spiritual books. I have a peace in my life for the most part and have decided to not be suicidal, and haven't been for over two months now, the longest streak of my life. Yoga is my church, where I connect with myself and the universe.