I told her Husband...and my ex mother in law and my ex sister in law. I would've told everyone in my ex's phone book, but the other woman's husband was so embarassed about his wife, he asked me not to, so I didn't.

a quote I keep handy - "Properly speaking, there is no such thing as revenge. Revenge is an act which you want to commit WHEN you are powerless and because you ARE powerless. As soon as the sense of importence of the situation is removed, the desire for revenge evaporates. "

Good quote.

Mine wasn't "revenge"...i felt all is fair, and if they could cheat, then myself and her H had a right to know.

Make sinces, I guess it's not worth my time.

Robert, I don't believe I would tell others because to me I don't think it would really make any difference, but I would certainly walk way because for me cheating is a drop dead deal breaker in a relationship. For me breaking up would be enough for me. For everyone, they have to decide for themselves.

When he was communicating with me...telling me the sweet words that I had no doubt he was telling her too...I was very tempted to clue her in. But I didn't. I don't know her personally and I took some satisfaction, right or wrong, in knowing he was talking to me when I knew she didn't know about it.

Then, after I stopped all of that (at the time)...new anger set in and I was again tempted...but I let it go. Its just not my style. I knew shit would catch up to them both...and it did in time.

Tell. For the other party's benefit.

The best revenge is living well. Period.

I would want someone to tell me the truth. I would tell the truth, not for revenge, but I would tell them so they know.

sigh.

i am a petty, small woman.

i would drive up and down the streets with a loudspeaker shouting the news, i would rent an billboard featuring an x-rated re-enactment starring honey boo boo's mom and tom arnold. i would tell co-workers and friends from summer camp, young relatives who looked up to them and people who sat next to them in church. i would stand behind reporters doing live broadcasts holding a sign with crudely drawn named stick figures having sex, and if i was lucky enough to make them cry i would make it my ringtone.

i know it wouldn't do any good, but i would do it anyway. i have anger issues.

I loath cheaters becuease for me I see it like this.

Leave the relationship , end of story no excuses only fat pigs want to have their cake and eat it too.

So , to answer I would tell them not for revenge but people deserve the truth and sometimes the truth for some people doesn't always come to light they need a little help.

Vernacular, nice post. That's the best laugh and visual I've had all day.