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Okay, so where to begin? Back when I was a senior in high school I was dating this girl who was so good to me, she was, and still is the light of my life. Well she is 2 years younger than me & her parents kinda resented that from the beginning so of course they were always cautious of me. So they would put locators on her phone to always know where she was when she was with me. & just never really trusted us. We never did anything wrong up until our relationship started getting really serious. Well then they took her phone and started reading our private messages which had some things they didn't approve of. So when they told me to stop contacting her I didn't she still wanted to be with me & I have always wanted to be with her, but then it came down to them calling me a loser, how unstable I am, they would try to bring down my father when he tried talking to them polity. I have come to the conclusion that these parents we're completely over bearing of their child which is by all mean acceptable I will not fight that of course I will be like that with my child. But since they filed a Restraining Order my life has just sucked. I have gotten fired twice for having protective orders, and now I can't even talk to her because she hates the fact we have to sneak around. I do too, but we love each other & even with a restraining order we still met. Meanwhile she is at a different college and since I stopped talking to her she is a completely different person. She would never drink, smoke, or do drugs with me, and now I hear her doing that stuff all the time and it just hurts to see how bad see is taking this whole thing. It's not her I don't trust either. It's her room-mates who are so crazy and all they do is party. It just makes me sad about the whole situation. I never hurt, abused, or did anything but disrespect her parents I guess, but they disrespected me just as much as I did them plus they are the mature grown adults. I was an 18 year old little boy and they still couldn't walk away from the situation. I can't help, but feel like I am more of a man after this whole thing, but I just want their daughter back in my life. I love her so much...
If there's still a standing restraining order, if it's unfounded, and your ex doesn't agree with it, I'm sure it can be contested.
I don't want to get anyone in trouble, make her family dislike you even more or disown their daughter, but if I was in that situation, and there's was enough love for it to be worth sticking it out no matter what, I would still see her secretly. Very secretly. Until everything blows over.
I don't know what her parents want in a boyfriend for her daughter, but work on yourself. You're still young. Grow, not so much for them, but for yourself. Show them that you're worthy of being their son-in-law. They'll see you've matured, and if that's not good enough, then no one will be good enough for them. And realize it's nothing wrong with you, it's just their overbearing nature. You're a good soul.
You guys are still young. Finish your goals, let her finish college. Cross that bridge when it comes, but don't worry about that for now. If you choose the secret relationship, just enjoy it. Maybe her parents will soften over time, with age. Good luck, and hang in there man.
I didn't do anything wrong except I didn't show up on my court date because I had a track meet on that day and I picked my priority which was the meet. I work to hard to miss something like that.