use the reality of his selfish as reason to miss him less

It is definitely a rebound. It wont make the pain any more bearable knowing this. But do know that after youre done feeling the feelings you need to feel now and actually healing he will be right back to square one when this new "relationship" fails. (which it more than likely will) and you will be 10 steps ahead of him. The first thing I did was block my ex and unfollow all our mutual friends as to not see anything he is tagged in ect. Stay strong and trust me whe nI say NO contact is the way to go. I'm on 6 weeks now and each week truly does get easier. I cant imagine where I would be if I kept in contact with him or had to see his face all over my social media everyday. Also tell your friends not to mention anything they may see about him to you. Sending hugs your way!

Thanks all. I'm 3 weeks No Contact. I just keep hearing him saying, "well she's a good person, which is more than you've ever been". It hurts, because I tried so hard for so long and to just be replaced like that. But I know healing is what and where I need to be right now. He's just repeating patterns and will continue to do so.

It sure sucks being replaced. I was replaced before we separated after being together for 23 plus years, he was cheating.

There is nothing I really can say that will make it better for you. I feel your pain. I share your pain. I wish it all wasn't so! I

hope you get some sleep. If you aren't seeing a doctor and/or taking depression or anxiety medicine may I suggest you check in to it...

Take care

So sorry you are in pain! But like kaytcorrn said you will be steps ahead in your healing when this relationship goes south! Just keep going NC and you will be ok! Sending hugs to you!

He's in a rebound relationship, some men can't be alone but you don't want to be with this type of person anyway. it's healthy to be alone right after a divorce. Put yourself first, spend time doing things you want to do. It's nice just to go out and buy something BIG for yourself without having to discuss the purchase with a spouse. Meet up with some old friends and in a year when your head is 100% clear and your ready to date put a list together of things you definetly need from a man. I think it's best to wait a year.

I'm going through a divorce now, after 9 years of marriage and honestly I would just LOVE for my husband to meet a girl and sign the divorce papers. I think I would even cook the dinner. :)

I am sorry for all your pain....it sucks
and we all can feel for you and know what you are going through

Hugs to you

I know how you feel. My ex joined a dating site RIGHT away after we broke up. I read his entire long detailed dating profile and it made me nauseous. Deep down I hope he meets someone who screws him over so badly and makes him feel even 1/10 of the pain he made me feel but worrying about him and his life has really delayed my own progress. I would advise you to not allow yourself to think about the other woman but I have no real answers on how you do that. I know its the right thing but it feels impossible because I do still think of my ex and who he may be seeing. I can tell you the days I find a way to not do that I end up doing better. I just wish I knew how to consistently do that. hugs to you!

I'm trying so hard right now to just focus on me and heal and not worry about them but i can't help but want them to be MISERABLE. How can he not even miss me or care? We were not married and when we broke up he cut me off COMPLETELY . NOTHING. I've tried to have a "closure convo" with him but it has been SILENCE. So I am not contacting him. EVER. but I hurt so badly thinking he does not spend one moment thinking about me because he is with her.

Those thoughts are the same thoughts that consume my days so I totally feel your pain. I constantly wonder who he may be "Sexting" with, who he may be talking to online, and who he may trying to hook up with if he already hasn't. I wonder who I have been cheated on with and how often. These thought patterns are destroying my sleep and hindering my days. Good on the NC!!! I actually broke NC yesterday because I was so pissed he just cut me off without a care in the world. That breach of NC set me back and I've been regretting it ever since. My best advice is as soon as hose thoughts creep into your head immediately replace them with any other thought you can think of. You have enough to deal with just getting over the end of the relationship, let alone imagine him with the new person who I'm sure it wont last with.

My experience with those men and women who find another relationship before one has ended is that they are tragically dillusional about fixing unhappiness with themselves with the attention of someone else. These people selfishly cast aside those who love them in search of another who might finally be the one to fix what is broken in them. As painful as what he has done to you is, know that he will never find true happiness until he acknowledges his flaws and invests himself in correcting his tragic character flaws. Pity the next victim who is oblivious to his true self and the inevitable pain she will be going through in the future. Focus on yourself and look to any support structure you may have... friends, family, and this forum of people going through similar relationship trauma. Praying for your strength and healing.