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Mama said there'd be days like this.....
It's been non-stop, throw in your face. Well played, Universe!
So, it all began this morning while talking to my Mom. She was talking about my older brother and his no-longer girlfriend woes. She stopped, looked at me and said, "You're such a pretty girl. What's wrong with YOU!" WTF?! It took me a moment to compose a thought. I told her "I don't think there's anything wrong with me, Mom. Because I'm flying solo makes me broken? I've put up and gone through a LOT. I have a zero bullshit tolerance". She quickly changed the subject. I know she means well......
I COVET my Tuesday mornings. I'm a self employed business owner with a crazy busy schedule ...and I'm a single Mom 365 days per year. I run around like a lunatic on Tuesday mornings, trying to accomplish everything that needs to be done.
I ran to the bank and in doing so, bumped into a guy I went to high school with. Our boys played football together about 5 years ago. Those 5 years ago, we became reacquainted from high school. He was very flirtatious back then. Talked my ear off all season and we hung out all of the time. He expressed an interest, then backed off....which I found out later, began dating a woman whom I know. I let it roll. No big deal.
Well, today, ( after not seeing him for a few years now) was very flirtatious. He waited for me outside of the bank to chat. He hugged me, chatted for a while about the kids, etc, He stops conversation to make comments about my 'eyes being captivating, how i look (Ive lost a lot of weight since then) And how he and Wendy broke up. He asked if I were seeing someone, etc , and the says that I 'need to take time out for myself'. Ugh. He walked me to my Jeep after I cut that conversation, hugged me goodbye, end of story. If I wasn't old enough for you then, then why now?
Drive out to the rifle range to drop something off to my Dad. He wanted to chat and visit. I thought it was going to be a quick trip. I ended up shooting a few groups with him. I went to leave and he says " Honey, don't you think you should get your nails done?" And tries to hand me some cash. WTF?! I kissed him on the cheek goodbye and left.
Fire up the Jeep and hear the one and only song on the radio that reminds me of my "Crush". He too....chose someone else after crossing my path and coming on hard core. He's truly the one and only man I've ever really been drawn to. The intensity is insane...we keep in touch, he talks about our mutual connection often, yet remains with "her"
Maybe I AM broken. I feel hollow...not be use I'm alone, but because its rare for me to feel any connection, and when I do...it's gone .
Senseless diatribe I've written. Venting, I guess.
It's been non-stop, throw in your face. Well played, Universe!
So, it all began this morning while talking to my Mom. She was talking about my older brother and his no-longer girlfriend woes. She stopped, looked at me and said, "You're such a pretty girl. What's wrong with YOU!" WTF?! It took me a moment to compose a thought. I told her "I don't think there's anything wrong with me, Mom. Because I'm flying solo makes me broken? I've put up and gone through a LOT. I have a zero bullshit tolerance". She quickly changed the subject. I know she means well......
I COVET my Tuesday mornings. I'm a self employed business owner with a crazy busy schedule ...and I'm a single Mom 365 days per year. I run around like a lunatic on Tuesday mornings, trying to accomplish everything that needs to be done.
I ran to the bank and in doing so, bumped into a guy I went to high school with. Our boys played football together about 5 years ago. Those 5 years ago, we became reacquainted from high school. He was very flirtatious back then. Talked my ear off all season and we hung out all of the time. He expressed an interest, then backed off....which I found out later, began dating a woman whom I know. I let it roll. No big deal.
Well, today, ( after not seeing him for a few years now) was very flirtatious. He waited for me outside of the bank to chat. He hugged me, chatted for a while about the kids, etc, He stops conversation to make comments about my 'eyes being captivating, how i look (Ive lost a lot of weight since then) And how he and Wendy broke up. He asked if I were seeing someone, etc , and the says that I 'need to take time out for myself'. Ugh. He walked me to my Jeep after I cut that conversation, hugged me goodbye, end of story. If I wasn't old enough for you then, then why now?
Drive out to the rifle range to drop something off to my Dad. He wanted to chat and visit. I thought it was going to be a quick trip. I ended up shooting a few groups with him. I went to leave and he says " Honey, don't you think you should get your nails done?" And tries to hand me some cash. WTF?! I kissed him on the cheek goodbye and left.
Fire up the Jeep and hear the one and only song on the radio that reminds me of my "Crush". He too....chose someone else after crossing my path and coming on hard core. He's truly the one and only man I've ever really been drawn to. The intensity is insane...we keep in touch, he talks about our mutual connection often, yet remains with "her"
Maybe I AM broken. I feel hollow...not be use I'm alone, but because its rare for me to feel any connection, and when I do...it's gone .
Senseless diatribe I've written. Venting, I guess.
Did you at least shoot a bit while you were there?0
My parents have 3 daughters. I'm the black sheep of the bunch. My sisters look like my mother. She's a beautiful woman... I'm the only one who looks like my father...and identical to his mother. My grandmother was always dressed to the 9s and picture perfect. I'm not. I think, at times, that he wants me to look the part, so he can often "drop" hints.
Secondly? Your parents seem to assume you need to half of a couple in order to be complete. It's the generation, they won't get it. Let dad but you nails. He's teaching and trying to have you do something girlie.
If you want to find someone you will, I know the 'hang up' on other guy, he's safe to be hung up on because you get to crush but keep your distance. You get to feel angsty and crushy but not have to actually get emotionally involved in the day to day romance coz it isn't there.
Personally? I'm broken. I know it. I walked away from my impossible crush a few weeks ago, I just....couldn't take it anymore. I have an occasional "chew toy" that means nothing. (And I mean nothing to him either). It's not likely healthy because it reinforces my mindset that I'm not relationship material but - it's what I want to do right now.
Lol - no idea if this makes any sense.....You vent and I'll just brain dump.
I tried to energetically cut the energy from my "crush". It didn't work. :/
I wish, at times, that I hadn't experienced what I did.
When I was divorcing, my Dad sent me money once in awhile with instructions "Spend it on something pretty when you're feeling blue". One, he knows when I spend money, it's usually on my kid and, two, he knows I don't like shopping...lol...but I know where his heart was when he said it.
You sound like you have pretty good parents...and via your posts, I know you're one helluva mom.
It's not being "not good enough"...it's being amazing and you will know when the "right" man crosses your path.
Keep kicking ass, girl!