I am new to the group and looking for some support. I was married a little over 19 years. The situation wasn't good for about the last 5 and I should have left then. My now ex-husband was the one that filed. His relationship with our 2 children was not that good because he never had time for them. Therefore, my son encouraged me to look at his activities. My son had a feeling something was off. I hired a private investigator and that was the best thing that I did. Found at for several years that he had girlfriends, frequented strip clubs, and was attending sex parties. He has a second Facebook page for the sex groups and a profile on FetLife. The problem now is that he accepts no responsibility for his actions. We tried family therapy and all he did was blame me. Appartently everything was my fault because I did not communicate with him, give him enough affection, listen to him, etc. Plus he has visatation with our kids because there was no physical abuse. The kids wil not go anywhere with him, so I have to see him when he visits. It is very hard for me to move on when I know he will not take any responsibilty for his actions and it is all my fault according to him.  I have no family where we are living because of his career, so no one for support close to me. Thanks for reading.