If I am contacting an ex I am not contacting them to ignite anything with them. I think we have memory banks that sometimes brings a memory to surface for whatever reasons. If I hear Hannah.....I remember my dad calling my mother Hannah. I think we reserve feelings about these moments and cherish what was good about themso when the anger and bitterness is gone then we reflect more.onthese things because they aren't hindered by negative emotion. I will just speculate here and I say this because I read into things and sometimes I am wrong and I am going to tell you that it looks like you are still interested in him despite getting over bitterness.
I think you want his text to mean something to you and noone can guarantee this for you. I don't mean this in a negative way. It's just pure speculation on what you write. I would say be honest with yourself and ask yourself......why isn't my mail forwarded to me.....especially the important stuff.....I know things get really busy but sometimes we do things subconsciously that indicates how we really feel deep down inside. But I don't think you are being honest with yourself because you have been focusing on recovering and I mean no disrespect by saying all this :-).

hey Charlie, thanks and no disrespect at all. I did forward my mail back in Feb when I moved out. Here and there something will get sent there, not sure why. Of course I still care and love him and he will always have a place in my heart. Just like my Ex from 13 years ago, whom I am very good friends with now. You are right about the memories, 4th of July weekend was a big weekend for us both. So, we both thought about each other.. We actually had a long talk last night and cleared the air on alot of things and that, I feel better about.

I think thats great JH (your talk last night), I find I am kind of envious actually. I can only wish just that type of interaction with a couple of the gals I have crossed paths with since my ex. Its wierd, because almost any gals I dated prior to my ex, I am still friends with or we touch base every so often. Yet, since my ex, there are a couple of them that just went awry for whatever reason and was left on the side of their road and in their rear view mirror, unfortunately.

My only concern about your situation is your feelings for him still. Those feelings can have you finding yourself a little hurt here or there given you may misunderstand his intentions. So just try to stay mindful of that. You are doing so good that I just want to see you continue into the future with happiness and a light heart.

stay cool, my friend.

chitown, how are you? still sporting that trophy I see. You guys deserved it. I am a work in progress. I am and was very sorry that the relationship ended as you know but, look at it as a blessing. I told him about all of the wonderful things that have happened to me and said that I have no regrets. I told him it was the wake up call that I needed and an eye opener. We both stated are facts and our "you are right moments". Overall, I am lucky to be friends with Ex's, except for one, that I dumped and he said that he could not just be my friend.

Janice. I have known my STBX since I was 15. I text her asking how she is. She had several emotional affairs after 14 years of marriage. She is the mother of my kids and I know that our breakup was kind of coming her actions were just the straw that broke the camels back so to speak. Part of me will always love here. And I will ask her thongs via text or whatever. My point is when she doesn't answer then OK if she does OK. But she knows why I am texting and she has told me she is busy or what have you. Its not confronting him but text him and ask what's the purpose in his texts if its for a purpose you don't like just tell him

hey gettingit... you have to finish reading my posts. We did talk for a hour about, a lot of things and cleared the air. We are in a good/OK place.

Good to hear janice

yes, timing is everything,.

Doing Ok, thanks for asking.

and yeh... still got that up there. Was thinking about changing, but since I see you like to see it still, I will have to leave that pic up for a bit longer. ;)

@chitown :)

he messed up and the old "Grass isn't always greener comes to mind" that relationship is over as harsh as it maybe No contact bar mail and spell that out to him "Cruel to be kind" but hey its your life, whatever makes you happy :) x

Teuphoo, you may be right about the grass. No need to be cruel, what comes around in life goes around, it is how you handle things.

im just saying cruel to be kind, this guy in my opinion will keep dabing in and out whilst you let him...3 years for me and I still think about her all the time, she doesn't reply to my texts barring re our son, so fair play to her, shes never messed me around on the "ever getting back together score" and again, whatever makes you happy, and is best for YOU x all the best hugs from the UK !