Sounds like he's feeling guilty, or wants a small piece back of what he gave up.

WHen was this break up? Were you married? It wold seem maybe he is thinking about you, because he has no one else at his time.

He broke up with me back in February, we were not married but together for 6 years.. We literally went from buying a house, his idea, to he met someone. All in three weeks time. His reaching out could mean something or not mean anything at all...

I know it's been suggested to you early on to go no contact and you didn't want to. But with each of his contacts, you're back here writing about him contacting you.

If you really are finished with him, you wouldn't want the contacts nor care if he sees you looking so slim or good. You'd want him out of your life. You already got your things back. You have to decide what you truthfully want. If you want him back--go for him, but know that if things go bad again, you can blame him the first time, but you blame you the second time for going back because you had your eyes wide open.

If it were me, I would finally end all contact with him and not reply any more and block him. You want a better man for your future, and it would be best to leave him in your past. Take care and many hugs.

"His reaching out could mean something or not mean anything at all"

As long as you aren't attached to it meaning anything, or nothing... it doesn't really matter.

Astimegoes, I am in a good place, doing me and dating here and there. I am no longer angry or bitter, no reason to be. I want us to be friendly/cordial. I have another Ex, believe it or not, whom I am best friends with who has been a huge support system for me throughout this break up with my current Ex. Unless, my Ex was a terrible guy, then, yes, I would go no contact but, he is not. I am just not the one for him or he got cold feet. It was a good 6 years, I cannot erase that and me being bitter or angry does nothing.

But maybe he is not over you, and that could spell trouble for the time being. if you are over him good, but if he is not over you, than maybe you need to have no contact for awhile? Maybe even tell him that it is not healthy for him to still be hanging on to you, or whatever. I am not sure if that is the case, I could be wrong, that being friends with him at this time might be a bad idea.

Also from reading your journals you still miss him. This can make things complicated for you to go on, and still remain friends with him right now. Not saying you can't int he future, but it seems too soon for both of you, and your feelings for each other i would think.

How is your dating going by the way?Is it helping, or making it worse?

thanks aquarisusc and prospero for the inbox message. Yes, I still care, am I 100% no, but a good 90-95%. Dating is interesting, I have had two dates. I did not feel a connection but, at least I got out there. I have another girlfriend trying to fix me up with someone. So, we shall see. This is my me time and I like it for now. This past weekend, I went to Mohegan Sun with a guy friend, whom I have known for over 20+ years. Had a good time.

Wel I am glad you are getting on with your life, but yes i am worried about his feelings for you, and it might complicate things, especially if you are with someone else.

Janice, no one has asked you to be bitter or angry. I took your posts to mean you were concerned because this particular ex was texting and contacting you as you seem to post here about him contacting you when he does. Apparently I'm not alone in concern.

But you have now said you want to be friendly and cordial with him so you're obviously good with all this contact and texting. That's great that's you've moved past all of the prior relationship and I'm happy for you.

So you really don't have to post so much about him contacting you because you two are just being friends. But maybe you could post more about dating to help some of the ones here that are struggling to get out and get into dating. You've progressed so far and could really make a difference for them.

I'm very proud of you that you can go from a romantic relationship to a friendship. It takes two very adult people to do it, and make it work. Being friends with an ex takes a lot of stress off in running into each other at places. It really is so positive. The best of luck.

thanks... I do hope in time we can build a friendship. I will keep you posted on my next date.

"but yes i am worried about his feelings for you, and it might complicate things"

His feelings at this point are irrelevant. He can feel whatever he wants, and she can act or not act on them as she wants. I think she's far enough away from her attachment that if she decides to go back at this, she knows precisely what she's getting into.

I'm not certain he's being malicious or devious, more that he may be wondering if she's doing okay, and as I said before, wanting a small piece of what he relinquished.

1lisak4, ohhhhh, I wish I had known that, we could have gone for a drink or tea... I had a good time, just trying to get out more and have fun..

It may just be him just saying "hi" and thats all.

I had dated someone where she, or I, would send a text message every so often when we came across something that would remind us of one another. Most times, it would be a pic of a sunrise/sunset.
I didn't think she was texting because of any other reason than just that. and it was nice.

but that's all it was

and maybe all it is here.