Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Hi all. Today was an awkward day. My husband I are getting seperated. Even though Id like to try and make it work he is adament that he does not want this marriage anymore. We dont sleep together anymore and he is staying with friends now. He has promised he will take care of me financially. We moved to a bigger city and I have been miserable ever since. I cant afford to live here on my own and the people are very different here. As far as as I know, none of the kids know we are seperating. His oldest child just recently came back into the picture of years of estrangement. He and his family came to visit and my husband ask me to put on a happy face. I did it because its his birthday and knew maybe the grandkids might ask where Im at. I have a feeling he might have told his son today.
He told me not to tell anyone but I know he is gonna be the first to tell everyone. Im in a weird place, we have tolive together for financial reasons right now so its all very uncomfortable. Ive always been the type to cut and run. Just make a cleanbreak. I almost got in my car and just drove so I could leave the situation.
Not sure what to do.
I understand putting on a happy face to get through a situation such as a family gathering. No sense in making everyone uncomfortable. But I would be damned if I would keep it a secret after that. You need support and if talking to someone about it is what you want to do, do it! If it's really over then there is no sense in keeping secrets.
too bad for his kids, but you are now out of his family, you have no obligation to be part of his phony story,
let him tell his kids what he will
you can too, more manipulation on his part
he has a plan
he is working it
better for you to work you own, not his for you, remember he choose to sever the marriage vows
He has and will anyway. I have already reached out to support groups in the area im thinking of going to. im brokenhearted icant take the cat with me.
All my compassion to you dear. I am there too.
I know im entitled to 50% but his businesses have failed over the years putting us deep into debt.
I doubt ill get a penny by the wayitlooks. Hes a big promiser. Doesnt always come thru with those either. From what I know from the son whos now not talking to me, the other son keeps his distance and doesnt believe alot of what his dad says. I finally had enough, Ive been minimized by him the whole time, changed who I was to make him happy.
Been told that he wanted more kids but he got fixed because of me. I had a bad pain and bleeding, he told me it was in my head, i wound up needing a hysterectomy and endometreosis removed. Called me an airhead. Yelled at me numerous times. I lived on eggshells, we argued nonstop. I started second guessing myself, feeling as i was going crazy. Told me women looked at him and he could have anyone of them. It was too much.