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trueblue 11/15/2016

So...my marriage has been noticeably unraveling for the past 8-9 months (and unraveling beneath the surface before that). My husband has said all along it's all my fault--in his opinion, I don't try hard enough, etc.

So last night I said I was willing to give us another try if he would be completely honest with me. No deception, no lies, total transparency. These are things that caused our relationship to have issues in the first place. He agreed to the total transparency and no secrets idea.

Today I got a text from an old friend (lives out of state) who was reaching out to help me. She said my husband called her husband today and told him we were having marriage issues, etc. There's no way my friend could have known this unless my husband called hers. When I got home from work and asked my husband if he has talked to this guy today, he said no!!! I didn't care if he had called the friend, but the fact that he denied it just proves he isn't truly committed to being honest.

So much for the transparency and trust. This is why our relationship doesn't work!

jesusismyrock 11/16/2016

I am so sorry to hear this. I will pray for your husband to be honest with you and demonstrate his commitment to change.

CrushedDad 11/16/2016

So sorry to hear about your troubles. Hang in there!

thiscantbeit 11/16/2016

It sucks when we can't get the other person to the place we need them to be. It's even worse that it doesn't come from them to want to do whatever. How is it that love doesn't push them to want to work things out and fix what needs to be fixed? I don't get that. These days, people really don't understand what it means to love. And because we love them, we tolerate and accept things that we shouldn't; often times with the hope that it will steer them in the direction to restore and build and grow the relationship. I am sorry to hear that you have to be in this place in your relationship. I really hope that you are able to come to a place where you can work it out, what ever that may look like for YOU. - Hugs

lilstarsmum 11/16/2016

I’m so sorry to hear that. Wish I could give you a hug. It's pretty obvious that you want to have a good marriage. I just said a prayer for you and your husband, and I hope that God will provide the comfort and help you need at this time. Do you think it would help to speak with a counselor? Do you think your husband might consider going with you? It might be worth trying. Sending hugs & prayers your way!

jojored 11/17/2016

Trueblue, I think I understand where you're coming from. A little deception here, a white lie there. They don't seem to feel it's a big deal, right? Even you said you weren't bothered that the two men talked. But they lie anyway. And a lifetime of lies erodes trust, respect, love. You can't have a relationship with someone who can't be honest.

strongandsilent 11/17/2016

My ex was the same way. He lied about everything and anything. Big or small. He'd say anything not to be inconvenienced. I knew.. but figured he was insecure. I didn't sweat the small stuff. Well, it turns out it is all small stuff. And small stuff is huge

trueblue 11/21/2016

Thanks everyone. I appreciate the feedback.

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