I know what you mean. I really truly loved my ex and what we had was special. He did a lot of awful things to ruin our relationship and I absolutely do not want to be with him again. I often wonder the same thing. I know I will be able to love someone again, but will it be as much as I loved him or will it be different?

I am sorry you are feeling this way. It is hard to let go. It is hard knowing that the love of your life is gone. It is hard thinking that there is only one true love. We all have alot of love to give and have room for other loves to recieve. As soon as you let go, you will have more room for love.
Stay strong.

I feel the same way. I feel like I will never get over him and that I will forever miss and want the man I fell in love with. Today is another struggle day for me, sigh. I am tempted to contact him, but why? he made his choice and it sure wasn't me.

I get it. I feel lost and want to call him and ask him why he ruined everything with his behaviors. But I won't. Keep holding on to the fact that all happens for a reason. I am trying to stay away and strong too. It isn't easy.

I'm feeling the same way Brooklyn. My heart is so heavy, I cry at the drop of a hat. I'm having trouble focusing on work. I just can't see beyond this pain right now and can't imagine every being part of a couple again. I feel so alone, lonely, lost, depressed, afraid, despondent. My heart goes out to you.

I feel the same..and I keep banging my head on a brick wall. It takes time..but I have found you have to be committed to YOU! You and your happiness. Obviously he wasn't for you or he would still be there..and he wouldn't have played games. Just hang in there..take it day by day..and journal! Don't be discouraged. Like someone said once..grief is not linear. It takes time and one day you will get to where you need to be. you will wake up and feel free.

Okay, so I have some thoughts to contribute here.

First off, I think this is something practically everyone who has been in a long term relationship will deal with. Security is one of the founding needs we all have and it is next to impossible to not become intimately connected with the other person, therefore, when they are no longer in our lives, we suddenly have a vacuum and we feel lost and in many cases unable to move.

I think the key here is to look deep within yourself and ask what you need. The other person fulfilled at least some of those needs, but not all, hence, the probable main reason it did not last. However, it is important to remember that there are literally millions of people out there with many of those same qualities. Our needs also change over time, so what we were is not necessarily who we are today. Sometimes we outgrow the other person, or they outgrow us.

If you get clear on what you want and then focus on those qualities you seek, then in time the right person will appear. No none can make you happy, only you can do that. I think you first have to take time to reset and figure out what you really want - the why, and in time, the right person - a big part of the how, will show up.

I don't feel that way. I feel like i have robbed myself of life full of love because i put too much focus on people who never loved me i the first place. I do understand you feeling this way though because we can only carry one true torch :-).

I don' know if you mentioned this, but are you in therapy, or speaking with anyone in real life about this? You have been broken up for a year, and some progress should've been made in that time.

Sending you hugs...

it can be normal to feel that way when a relationship ends. many of us have felt that too. however, i think a huge key step is to stop dwelling on that and stop telling yourself that. as others have mentioned, there were things that weren't right in the relationship, as there are in all relationships that end. and there is something better out there. but you have to move toward that. so when those thoughts creep in, you can either wallow in them and feed them, or you can learn means to distract yourself, stop the thoughts, focus on something else. it is hard, but it is part of moving on. you'll remain forever stuck if you indulge in that kind of thinking. there absolutely is more and better out there for you, seek it.

I feel the same way. I am actually quite certain I will not love like that again. I doubt that I will ever believe in "love" the way I used to. I never believed in anything so much as I believed that we would always be together. I still believe in love - love of family, friends, that sort of thing. But romantic, spousal love? No. There is so little evidence that it really exists anymore.