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Really emotional right now

blessed19
blessed19
If you read my last post on here you will no my story. Today Im just a little emotional knowing that he is with this other girl. Even though he treated me like shit and basically told me not to contact him unless it was regarding our son. He also told me that I cant see anyone and basically he can call me and see me when he wants but i cant call him.He was like im the man and you are the woman I need you to play your position as he would say. I havent talked to him at all. What kills me is that he will call me when he misses me telling me he loves me and all that bullshit. Im like stop playing games. Last week he was telling me that even though he is talking to someone he always ends up thinking about me. Its just a viscious cycle that needs to come to a stop! I cant beleive I would love a man who would treat me so cold. I am so angry and hurt. I know I need to leave it alone and thank GOD I havent talked to him in over a week. I dont plan on calling him and I dont want to accept his phone calls. Its so0o0o0o0o0o0 hard though! I gotta be strong and know that I am WORTH so much more. Cause at the end of the day a man dosent change so I dont know what this girl might be going through. He cheated on me he's prob doing the same to her.
LKess
LKess
hugs of support.........
deleted_user
deleted_user
I've been there, the man I was with just couldn't commit, he would treat me like crap, break up with me and then want me back in a week or so. He would be so sweet, caring and loving then. It's hard to break out of that cycle. One day I just said enough is enough and just broke free, and didn't look back. It's the best thing I did for myself. I wondered how I dealt with it as long as I did. These men don't deserve us. They are jerks and don't know how to respect women! Forget about him and start looking for the man that will respect you!
blessed19
blessed19
@Jaken You are right! I used to be a strong woman that wouldnt let no man walk all over me. I had confidence and everything. Then i met him in 05 and it went down hill from there. He was emotionally abusive and my self esteem just went down. That needs to change.
@LKess thank you so much for the support!
OLDBIKER
OLDBIKER
I just as well add my two cents worth. First of all, a man who truly loves you would not treat you like this. You are his spare tire. When get gets down, lonely, etc. he uses you to get him up and going again. Secondly, don't let yourself be manipulated by this man. You are old enough to control your own life. Thirdly, if you have a son together, he should be paying child support. Fourthly, you need to move on with your life. Where you go and who you see or choose not to see is none of his business. You must live your life that brings you joy, happiness and fulfillment and you sure aren't going to get your life on track f you continue with him. The past record should prove that. Listen to other women on here. Jaken is smart and well as understanding. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
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