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Reality setting in

STex
STex

 I guess some of you are right, my wife is just showing herself that she can be around me. I have been up since 2am and just feel like I have nothing left. What's next? Just no contact? I didn't talk to her for a few days and she starts texting, so it starts all over again. Why would she want me to be around the house? Is she just trying to make herself feel better? I hate who I am right now, just empty. I want it all to end. 

mirandac
mirandac
It will all end one day and things will get better
Some day too. Just keep working on yourself
And try to get better regardless of what she is
doing or not doing, thinking or saying or texting.

All of her cards are Not on the table yet.

There is not Much working on it if they are
bonded to another person. My ex was and
there Was nothing left to work with and no
repairing the marriage. He was emotionally
Checked out and long gone. HUGS
AnxietyFreak40
AnxietyFreak40
Don't you have a child? I think she is thinking of the child and making sure you are both present.
kbbcoop77
kbbcoop77
Because she wants to be friends and keep the security of you there but doesn't want you as a romantic partner. She needs to see her choices have consequences ...keeping you on a string makes it much easier for her.
STex
STex
Miranda thanks I hope it does get better. She isn't "bonded" with anyone just mad that she let herself be unhappy for so long. She is mad that I moved out, I guess that was a mistake but I felt so cornered.
Anxiety, our son is almost 18, I have actually seen him more since leaving. He is always busy, but we talk a lot everyday.
Coop you may be right, I am going to try to not be so reactionary and let her have her space, I am going to try and stick up for myself more, I am going to try to stop discounting my feelings.
Hope everyone has a "bright" day.