Worst enemy*

you should delete and block him and stop torturing yourself this way. It will always make you anxious whenever you go on FB, but if you can't see him, what he does won't hurt you.

I agree with transition73, remove and then proceed to block him on your Facebook. I know it might be hard, but it can be done, heck it was super hard for me, but I removed and blocked my ex-fiance 2 days ago and I'm feeling a little bit better about things now.

She's been gone for 9 days now, and for the 7 out of the 9 I had direct access to my ex on Facebook. Seeing her moving on and posting all kinds of things was hurting me, rather than helping. So she's off Facebook and now I don't have the temptation to peek into her world, it can give you some peace of mind.

Block him...not sure why you gave him the power by saying he needed to delete you???

As far as contacting him, fortunately he didn't respond and now you can block him from every means possible (phone, email, social media). He has moved on and it is time for you to move on as well.

Sorry for your state of mind - you must take control of your situation, your life,your emotions, etc. He's no longer relevant. Remove yourself from any source that he is also a part of. Stop keeping up with his life, is no longer linked to yours. The sooner you accept this the sooner you'll begin to bounce back.

Good luck.

How long have you guys been broken up? Is he still saying he doesn't know if he wants to get back together with you? At some point, you have to take control of your own destiny and not allow him to make all the decisions. If you don't want to see that stuff on Facebook, block him. I know it's hard, but you have to do it. You have to move on eventually and forgive yourself for cheating. What you're failing to see is that it didn't work out for a reason and you're trying to force something that isn't there based on guilt and fear of the unknown. There is so much more out there for you. Try to start focusing on letting him, and the situation, go.

I had a good friend take my phone a delete him as a friend on facebook. I do not want to see that on my newsfeed ever again.

We have "officially" been broken up for over a year. However, we have been seeing each other off and on since then. A couple months ago he said he wanted to get back together. Then he changed his mind. Yet, he said he may still want to get back together at some point. I don't know what to do. I'm not ready to give up on him.

The old saying applies here:
"Dont make someone a priority that only sees you as an option"

You deserve better. Staying in the mode you are in now, you will never heal. You will always end up back to square 1.

Sorry, but you have to go No Contact. Anything else is torturing yourself. **HUGS**

Good job in taking that step! Kbb is right, you will never heal while you're still 'in limbo.' It doesn't matter how long you've been officially broken up, if you're still talking or the hope, false or not, is still there. I can relate to you in the fact that I am also the one who called it off with my ex then had major second thoughts and spent many months regretting my decision and trying to get him back. Now that it's been several years, I am so happy he was strong enough to say no, this isn't working anymore. I knew it too, but I wasn't strong enough. I got there eventually, though, and you will too.

I am still Facebook friends with my ex so we can see pictures of our kids adventures when they are with the other parent. However, I have it set so her status does not show in my feed. This way I'm not caught off guard. I can chose to view her page on days I'm strong enough to handle the pictures and stories of her and her new "friends". Just an idea...

Block him. I blocked my ex right away and I also blocked the girl he was cheating on me with as well. I know this is days after you posted. I just joined. I have been there at 2 am freaking out. I use to call my poor 83 year old mom at that time at night. But block him. I would obsess looking at his girlfriends posts to see if she posted pics of them. (He is on FB but he joined just to follow me during the divorce so his profile is non existent.) Once I blocked her and him I stopped obsessing. Block your ex.

you cheated on him, he now strings you along,
are you right with yourself do your actions agree with your values?
do your values agree with what you believe are right and wrong?
if not get your own house in order.
if yes, maybe consider evaluiting what you believe right and wrong to be

The NC is better! I just avoid going on Facebook.