im a woman- and i can tell you how i let men know i am interested in them- i know that wasnt your question- but im offering my free input anyway : )
usually, when i am interested in a guy, i let him know. i havent ever been one to jump into a relationship without building a foundation first- so by the time i am to that point, i already feel comfortable around this person and feel a connection.
im getting older too- so if there is a connection there and i feel comfortable with him i will be direct more often than not.
this has been met with positive response too. since a foundation has been built, and a guy is spending a lot of time with you, it stands to reason there are feelings there.

its funny- i was talking about this in class today with some friends- and i completely agree that if a man wants to be with you, he is going to find time to be with you. if he loses your number, he is going to find a way to reach you or get your number again. if he is interested, time just opens up. and i never noticed this before, because i was in it and was wanting to spend just as much time with the person- but its true.

xoxo

When she gives me her house key :) kidding..

Let me recall, initial interest for me is smiling and going out of their way to talk to you. Perhaps a slight touch on the arm or back. She may be dressing better and fidgeting with her hair too. I am out of practice on picking up clues but I hope this helps some.

I'm glad you put your input on this topic iloverufus. I agree with you, if a guy is interested in you he will make time to be with you. Loved your response Wistom. Dosen't sound like you are out of practice in knowing when a woman is showing you she's interested in you. I've recently noticed there are a lot of men are completley clueless when a woman is trying to let them know they are interested in them and that is why I posted this question. Any one who wants to comment man or woman is welcome in this discussion.

if a woman is interested in me, she will have to be pretty open about it. i do not pick up hints well. which leads to the next situation: if a woman has something on her mind, she had best speak up because i do not pick up on subtle female clues at all.

I've tried-(effortlessly, as I don't read the hints well as well, apparently...)-the "treat him mean, keep him keen" rule last Friday. Seemed to be working fine initially, as the guy was like a pest all over me;). He got my number, kept texting 'when we gonna meet up' and seemed pretty interested. Now- a week later- he hasn't called or offered anything constructive. We can call it quits than, eh? Or not?
I feel like a total rookie on a dating scene. Hmmm, should I be more direct than? Or that's what scares the guys off? I don't have a clue! To this point everything just seemed to happen on it's own and now one finds out there's almost a "dating science" behind it.
I'd welcome all the input on the subject as well, as I need to learn a lot- obviously...
Off to the pictures tonight with my girlfriend again, yh:).

When she gets touchie feelie then I am pretty sure. If she is dropping little hints she would have to hit me with a frying pan to get the hint.

@faithfull777 you mean you can't read their minds? lol

I have a tendency to be completely oblivious as to whether a woman is interested. I know one of two ways:
1) she SAYS so
2) she's on top of me.

and yes, If I am interested in a woman, I will make the time to see her, and make to effort to be close to her and to do enjoyable things.

How blunt should a woman be to let you know she wants to get to know you with out scaring you off?

@ Lauren,
I guess I'm old school and we're all a little different. I much prefer a little flirting at first. You're right, being blunt may scare me off. Playing games and not really being yourself would scare me off for sure.

Interesting discussion to me since at some point I need to get back out there.

Lauren, be very blunt.

lol @ faithful. funny

lol the blunter the better!

I assume they all are.

I think bluntness may scare off men sometimes. Candid expressions of feelings, whether in friendships or relationships, don't seem to have the desired effect of closeness one might wish for. And men don't always seem to be able to express to you why this is or what they are feeling even when you ask them point point blank. I am not sure if this is because they don't know or can't share or are confused themselves. For me, I am not afraid of truth, I'd rather a man say "you just come on too strong, too open, too expressive" or "I'm just not feeling you" or "I thought we might have a connection but it just fizzled". Whatever the case, I'm not afraid to hear it but are men just unaware? Or too nice/afraid to say? I find it confusing because I will just tell a guy the truth, I speak the truth so he can learn and continue in his growth and so no time is wasted. Do men think they are helping us by sparing our feelings? These are all things I am trying to understand while at the same time realizing regardless of what I figure out about men, the real change must come from my side of things. The real lesson is that actions speak far louder than words & yes I do know people MAKE time for you if you are what they themselves need and desire. So regardless of all the analysis and all you might figure out & understand, the truth is that when they don't make time for you and don't seem as excited about you as you are about them, then as they say "He/She is just not that into you". And the real lesson you must learn is to just Let it Go.

NOBODY is interested in me, no clue