Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Many of your guys remember the story about the girl that I had one date with and after one date she said that "she was happy to have me in her life."
I have not contacted her in quite some time. She still continues to try to contact me. She "Broke up with me a few weeks ago" and she said that she had to protect herself because this relationship wasn't healthy for her.....WE HAD ONLY ONE DATE.
Today I get to work and there is a letter in my mailbox. It is from her. Apparently she figured out where I worked, went on the internet and got the address, and mailed a letter addressed to me to my place of work.
In this letter she appologizes for offending me and she sends me a check for $20 to cover her half of dinner.
WTF?
This chick is nuts.
I am not cashing the check. I don't know weither to shred the letter or mark return to sender and send it back to her.
I have not contacted her in quite some time. She still continues to try to contact me. She "Broke up with me a few weeks ago" and she said that she had to protect herself because this relationship wasn't healthy for her.....WE HAD ONLY ONE DATE.
Today I get to work and there is a letter in my mailbox. It is from her. Apparently she figured out where I worked, went on the internet and got the address, and mailed a letter addressed to me to my place of work.
In this letter she appologizes for offending me and she sends me a check for $20 to cover her half of dinner.
WTF?
This chick is nuts.
I am not cashing the check. I don't know weither to shred the letter or mark return to sender and send it back to her.
You might want to consider weapon's training....just saying.
LOL
Stalk a cop...LOL.
NOT.
Good luck. ((hugs))
I know they are horrible to the victim, but I feel sorry for them, (as long as they are not chasing after me)
It takes about 6 to 8 weeks of no contact for someone to give up on an obsession. What that means is that you don't change your phone number or email address or anything else. And you just don't respond in any way to anything.
Restraining orders, yelling at someone, cursing them out. Even sending "Return to Sender" IS a response.
Honestly, just throw the letters into a box and don't open them, same with emails.
They will eventually get bored and move onto something/someone else.
And remember that even Threats, are proof that someone's considered an action and rejected it for now.
There are things that can be done. If this continues I will make her aware that her contacting me is making me uneasy and I fear for my life. Once that is done I will make a note of the date and time I did this. If she continues to contact me after that I will simply get a stalking EPO on her. That isn't a problem and any magistrate will be able to issue that.
To get a stalking EPO......You have to prove a pattern of behavior and you have to prove that you are in fear of your safety. The way you prove a pattern is to document dates, times, and places where they have contacted you. The other thing that does help is print off of the communication. Finally, by telling them that they are putting you in fear of your safety you are making them aware that their behavior is a concern and it gets you by the last proof of proving that they have knowledge that they are scaring you.