My ex is of the mind set that therapy is bogus and he is not about to talk to a stranger about problems. That attitude and the fact that thru infedelity he had already left the marriage left nothing to fix. He simply chose the other woman hoping it will fix his life. Is he right? i don't know anymore. i know i am in therapy and i like it. i can reaaaaly open up to this person. She thinks i am funny and intuitive and doing better than i give myself credit for. Wow i wish i could see myself like that.

OH yes P.S. Therapy can give you insight and you can talk and let it out till the cows come home. It cannot give you love. It cannot make you care when you no longer do....maybe that's why the ex did not want to go.

I watch her every morning when I get ready for work. She nails everything right on the head. Makes you feel she's talking right to you. I LOVE HER!

thanks for the info...i'm reading her book Battlefield of the Mind and i have Me and My Big Mouth....which i will read next...

I love her. She could make a non-believer a believer. I just got "Battlefield of the Mind" and can't wait to read it. She has really helped me get my faith back in God.

I think most therapist are good but...

Ex had one that was a fruitcake.

One example...ex was drunk everyday for years. Therapist said she wasnt an alcoholic, just an alcohol abuser. Ex used that as further evidence for denial.

...And these cornball cookie cutter treatments they have now...no more I'm okay, you're okay stuff...its all cut and run....

...and how many innocent are running around trying to find toltec indian spiritualism...good grief....

...and this four agreement stuff...

...cant a therapist think on their feet anymore?

I think they are all fresh graduate rich kids...no real life reasoning whatsoever.

Me and my husband got marriage counseling from a therapist who had 3 divorces under her belt...and she admitted it to us! I thought that was ludacrist. And No....Marriage counseling did not work, because my husband would not put the required effort into it. In retrospect, I wish I would have gone to one on one counseling by myself instead....then maybe I would have been the one who walked out of the marriage...instead I am left dazed and confused by him leaving me.

I got us into councling just because I and only I wanted to save our marriage. At first she was OK we can go... then she was like: i don't have to go you can go. When we got there it was loud and clear that she didn't even even want to give us another change to save our marriage... she decided long ago that she wanted out. She gave me faulse hope!

I could never get him to go no matter how much I begged. He didn't want to fix the marriage, he wanted to end it. You cannot make someone love you if they don't. I was heart broken. I did not understand how one day they can tell you they love you and literally the next day leave you and cut off all communication. I not know that he had already replaced me with another woman so counseling would not have helped, as his mind was already made up.

Individual counseling has helped me. STBX went once to individual counseling, once to couples (but on the drive there said he did not mean to be going to save our marriage)- just told the counselor he was not going to work on it - his mind was made up. I filed 2 weeks later so he could be with OW. We're 9 months out and waiting for legal stuff to work itself out.

This is something we all need every day!!!! Especially those like myself whom have a very low self esteme.

Thank you!

Thanks for your recommendations guys.

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