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It's almost here and I've already been on the point of tears any number of times yesterday and today. Wednesday, Oct. 2nd, would have been our 9th anniversary and instead it's well...our separated anniversary?
I'm trying to be smart about it and have taken the night off so I won't see him or the OW. And I have four friends that I'm going to go out with, someplace new that just opened a couple weeks ago so there's no old memories associated with it.
Hopefully those things will help but I still expect it's going to be really hard and hope I don't break down completely. Heck, I can't even write this out without being unable to see the monitor because I have tears in my eyes. Stupid crying. :p
Hugs and good thoughts, positive energy, prayers all gratefully accepted.
I'm trying to be smart about it and have taken the night off so I won't see him or the OW. And I have four friends that I'm going to go out with, someplace new that just opened a couple weeks ago so there's no old memories associated with it.
Hopefully those things will help but I still expect it's going to be really hard and hope I don't break down completely. Heck, I can't even write this out without being unable to see the monitor because I have tears in my eyes. Stupid crying. :p
Hugs and good thoughts, positive energy, prayers all gratefully accepted.
It's your first anniversary of your new found freedom and independence and starting the new amazing life that you never saw coming.
I'm here for you
I remember the one in 2010 when my ex and I were separated, and were submitting our divorce paperwork. All I could remember was how the year before how I had discovered evidence of her affair while on our anniversary trip to the beach. I had started to order a movie on Amazon for our son on her laptop and discovered some movie purchases that she shipped to the OM just weeks before. Precious memories :-/
The next year was better. Anniversary's and birthdays fade into the past. I just now had to look it up to remember that mine was Oct 17.
So, since you have tomorrow off, I will wish for you a relaxing day, and I hope you find peace with this.
Sending positive thought your way! You will get through this, you are strong!
I like MS post too. Perfectly said.
I hope you can relax and have a good time tonight. I am glad you are going out with friends.
You will get through this.
I am sending tons of good thoughts and positive energy!!!!!
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oh i am all to familiar with the would be anniversary. that first one is a doozy.
i like to think of it as a new and better beginning anniversary.
hang in there. we love you.
Very good suggestion MSgtD and I'll try to reverse my thinking. I suspect it'll be easier to think of it that way in successive years from now that it will be to think of it that way tomorrow. But hey, I can but try.
Animalito, I will most definitely keep your offer in mind and when everyone has left and it's just me a slightly damp cat you might very well get a message from me...
And as always, thank you sh39 for being so willing to share past memories that help put things now into perspective.
I am here if you need me.
xoxo
Positive thinking, engage...
It ended up being an early night because my girlfriend wasn't feeling well. Once home ugh, I fell apart and had a hard time stopping crying. Bonus above and beyond the call points to blondie for the long conversation; it really did help. Thank you so much for being there. Thank you animalito for the nudge to get some of the emotions out in a rather lengthy journal entry.
Thank you, too, to everyone that's been kind enough to listen both here and in private messages, last night and all day today, and to everyone for all of the hugs and thoughtfulness. It all helped keep me on the right side of sanity even during the worst of it.