Blixxa, I feel you honey. Mornings are the hardest for me because every night I dream that we are together and everything is great. I know how it must kill you that you were the one that put in the hard work and now someone gets reap the benefits of your hard labor. It sucks, it's hard, and I'm sorry. I get mad when I think about my husband and him meeting new people and possibly new women and I just think yeah it's easy to love him when you first meet him but if you knew him like i did you wouldnt stand by his side like I did, you'd run away screaming. I'm sure you think the same, that no one would've been able to be there for him while he was getting clean and now that he is he's kicked you to the curb. Well he, like my husband, obviously don't appreciate or even realize what strong, amazing women they had by their side and took it for granted. So now it's time to brush yourself off, keep your head high, and move on, knowing that you're now putting yourself first instead of him, and that you're better off. If you are in a city you don't like, start looking for jobs somewhere else and move. Or save enough money for you to be able to move and look for a job once you get there. There's a saying that says" new place, new luck" If you don't like where you are moving to a new place will be a great way to start over. I'm here for you if you want to talk. much love and peace sent your way.

find a way to dump your whole life and move away. some fresh air and some new scenery would be really good for you.

that man was like a leech. now it is your turn to have a good new life.

I feel your pain... I really do.... my ex and I were together for 9 years. I was supposed to move away for 1 year for school. He dropped me off and promised we would be okay. He dumped me 2 weeks later. I had re-occuring dreams that we would meet up, talk it out, and work it out. He has been seeing someone new for 2.5 months now and I am dying inside everyday. She is younger, funner, immature, into cars like he is... and it is all torture. With time the dreams will stop. As you start to feel better in your everyday life they will go away... but it is def hard when you spend so much time tying to move on and have dreams keep popping up and ruining it.

Blixxa same here but I ask god to see it and not pushing that on you but I believe in him and asked him last night to see her in my dreams. And she showed up and I talked and she told me she was done and done and looked happy and was leaving on a bus and did not believe I was a good person just a bad but at the bus seen she let me hold her and asked why did I stop holding her like that as she liked that when I first met her arms wrapped around her really tight! But the dream was hard and it was seeing her moving on but she did look good and very happy so that was the main thing for me happy at the end!

without sleep you get sick
mind and body

bad dreams can make you feel bad
but only temporarily
but at least you get sleep

plus the dreams arent real
theyre only pointing your direction towards reality

a reality it seems you find difficult to tolerate

feelings, even the bad ones wont kill you
and the best things about them are
theyre temporary

you will feel something else soon enough

go get some sleep
remind yourself thge next bad dream you have wont be real
and you'll be ok anyway

(((hugs)))

Went through horrible dreams also. I find when I am going to bed I think about things I am grateful for and positive places or things that have nothing to do with my ex I tend to have good dreams.

When I go to bed thinking about him I have bad dreams.

I have also been mediating before I go to bed to help clear my thoughts and stop my mind from going to negative thoughts.

I hope your start having peaceful and wonderful dreams!

I'm sorry you are having dreams about your ex. I know how you feel as I go through periods of dreaming about my ex. They are never good dreams for me either! Had a bad one last night that left me feeling very upset and very angry.

I wish I had some helpful suggestion.....this has been going on with me for 2 1/2 yrs! And, I moved far away from him and all his bullshit.

Thanks so much you guys. I want to move, but have been given such an amazing opportunity at work and I know I will never be given this opportunity again. I am hoping that in 2 years I can transfer back home. Its hard. I know they live a town away but I always worry I will run into them.

I'm sorry we all had to go through this, but I feel blessed that we can all be here and help eachother.