Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Hello all:
I am new reading here and need help.
I'm not sure where to turn. I have been here before and found some friends. My wife is abusing me horribly. In the past it has been physical, emotional and verbal. It had gotten better in the last two years. I suffered a serious brain injury 2 1/2 years ago and almost died. I have since somewhat recovered but am still very sick. I get very horrible headaches and loss of feeling and pain in my legs. For this I have to take painkilling medication. I have made it back to work full time. Every day I get out of bed is an accomplishment.
My wife is sometimes supportive and sometimes abusive. They changed the manufacturer of my medication last week. Nothing new, jus new maker. My wife is aware and says this new medication makes me crazy. I havent changed. What prompted her anger you ask? Last nite I got sick of paying $200 for cable and found another company for $85. I had a little more energy than normal. So she thinks I'm crazy becasue I saved money on cable. I swaer on my life.And I kept washing my eyes becasue this new medication dries them out. So she said I am just like her mother and she wants a divorce. her mother was a drug addict and was in and out of mental hospitals. I work full time while partially disabled and have a great life. I am happy. I like myself. She is making me out to be her mother.
This has gone one for a week. I asked her to leave last Friday for a few days and then she apologized. Huge fight again last nite. Asked her to leave. She has a sister. I have no one. I dont have any extra money for a hotel right now. I am so angry. I am of course not going to kill her but the thought of killing myself always crosses my mind. It has for 49 years.
I feel as if I have no option. She wont leave. There is nothing wrong with me. Yet I woke up this morning and felt like if I was alone that would be awful also. I just cant take it any more. I have to get this out amd talk to somebody or I will lose my mind. Ive called the shelter before and they only offer services to women. Nice. I just need $300 for a hotel but have no idea how to get it. Somebody please help. I just need to talk or someone to listen to me.
Amexdm
I am new reading here and need help.
I'm not sure where to turn. I have been here before and found some friends. My wife is abusing me horribly. In the past it has been physical, emotional and verbal. It had gotten better in the last two years. I suffered a serious brain injury 2 1/2 years ago and almost died. I have since somewhat recovered but am still very sick. I get very horrible headaches and loss of feeling and pain in my legs. For this I have to take painkilling medication. I have made it back to work full time. Every day I get out of bed is an accomplishment.
My wife is sometimes supportive and sometimes abusive. They changed the manufacturer of my medication last week. Nothing new, jus new maker. My wife is aware and says this new medication makes me crazy. I havent changed. What prompted her anger you ask? Last nite I got sick of paying $200 for cable and found another company for $85. I had a little more energy than normal. So she thinks I'm crazy becasue I saved money on cable. I swaer on my life.And I kept washing my eyes becasue this new medication dries them out. So she said I am just like her mother and she wants a divorce. her mother was a drug addict and was in and out of mental hospitals. I work full time while partially disabled and have a great life. I am happy. I like myself. She is making me out to be her mother.
This has gone one for a week. I asked her to leave last Friday for a few days and then she apologized. Huge fight again last nite. Asked her to leave. She has a sister. I have no one. I dont have any extra money for a hotel right now. I am so angry. I am of course not going to kill her but the thought of killing myself always crosses my mind. It has for 49 years.
I feel as if I have no option. She wont leave. There is nothing wrong with me. Yet I woke up this morning and felt like if I was alone that would be awful also. I just cant take it any more. I have to get this out amd talk to somebody or I will lose my mind. Ive called the shelter before and they only offer services to women. Nice. I just need $300 for a hotel but have no idea how to get it. Somebody please help. I just need to talk or someone to listen to me.
Amexdm
This has had a major major impact on your life. You are only just getting back to work after what she did to you. You can't expect her to be supportive because she doesn't have a supportive bone in her body to do this to you.
How long have you been married? Do you own your home together? Kids? I'm not sure what direction to steer you in, but you have to get out ASAP. She wants a divorce because you remind her of her mother? What an excuse. I would contact a lawyer ASAP. They usually have free consultations. I would also suggest posting this on the physical and emotional abuse support group as there may be people there who've been through what you have and have more advice to offer you.
I'm so sorry this is happening to you
Hugs
Get out and be safe.
Many hugs and good luck.
Do what you need to for you. Don't think of hurting yourself (I've been there lately) my life is a disaster but I think we can fix what is wrong for us and be happy. It sounds like maybe she is needing some medication herself, regardless of what is happening with her you need to look after you first.
Thanks to all for repsonding. I realized after posting I was maybe in the wrong section. I did go to the abuse section. BTW, she went to her sisters for the day. Whoopdydo. I did contact my dom violencecounselor and she called me back. I was at work and couldnt answer. I will call her back today.
To clarify, she didnt casue my brain injury but has contributed to it and my after care. I will say I feel for other who go thru abuse and also thru divorce. I hope to be back someday to read and contribute. Thanks