i dont know what the definition of "over doing" support is - or even if there is one.
if there is, by any definition, i superceded it long ago.
these people on here know things about me i havent shared with friends in real life. its helped me heal.
and thats really all that matters isnt it? that we are facing things - no matter how painful they are - and realizing when we bring them to light that not only are we not alone, but we are supported and worthy of love.

look around sweet person - we are all in pain. on a support board or not we all have our battles that we are fighting. are we just not supposed to share because of that? or are we supposed to realize that the whole reason we are here on this earth is to support one another? help get one another thru?

no apologies needed. no measuring stick is being used (at least not by me) on who gives what, how much, to whom, for how long, etc. support others when you can. seek it out when you cant. do both on a good day. we are big boys and girls here - we can take it.

xoxo

Iloverufus is right--you tell what you need to tell to help you heal. And we are hear to support you, comfort you, use a little tough love and give you a kick in the butt when we think you may need it.

You will find as you emerge from the pain of break up and divorce that your thoughts will get brighter. Have faith.

Sending hugs!!!

Ilrts is soooo right! And we are all at different stages in this (which can flip on a dime) so please do not feel bad about being on the receiving end. If you need support it's here. We all need it, that's why we're here. :) And I can't even begin to tell you how much I've learned about myself by reading what others are going through! If they would have been too ashamed to post then I would still be in the dark about a lot of things. Actually... there was a post YOU wrote about feeling responsible for your X's cheating/leaving and then you later commented that you were upset that you felt that way. That thread helped me tremendously because I was going through the same thing but I couldn't put it into words at the time. I suffered silently until I read the thread and it opened my eyes.

Don't force yourself to be anything for others. If you are sad, be sad. If you are angry, be angry. If you've got a gripe, complain away! :) One of the great lessons I've learned through this is that you have to be true to yourself first. You have to give to yourself before you can give to others. And we are always here for you!

You're not overdoing it if there is still support to give. Take as much as you need. :)

I think you're such a real sweet heart aditi, don't ever feel like you're a burden here, I know I have been there too, time and time again. But I would so much rather come here, where I feel safe to unload, where people know what I am going through. Versus those in real life, who yes, I know do their best to be supportive, but frankly haven't got a clue, as they (thankfully) have not gone through such a major life change.

I do understand the need to journal privately at times, been doing that myself,a lot lately to help me things through, at times my thoughts pretty incohent and erratic, freely venting, without getting into the detail (explaining to an audience) but that is ok too. It has helped to go back later, a day or two later (or even a month later) and figure out how I got to such a place, in hopes of preventing it from going there again...Do what you think you need to do to heal.

Hugs to you aditi! We are here for you!

Journals are our safe place to vent. Soon you will be using your journal for happy updates.

Hugs!

You can always share it with me, I've been there and don't mind giving you the support you need...

Being here and getting support (or giving it) is what this forum is all about. Don't think that you need to stop or hold back... how will that help you? Those who friend you, message you, comment on your journal, etc, do it because they choose to. Nobody is forcing them to do it. Take the support. People care. They offer support because they care.
Be kind to yourself aditi. You're a sweet soul, but very tough on yourself at times. Be good to you. Embrace you.
(((((((((((((((((((((((((((Aditi)))))))))))))))))))))))))

Sometimes I feel the same way. There have been a few times that I've withdrawn into my bubble and felt like I was being too much of a burden on the people that care about me here. But hopefully I've been as good a friend to them as they've been to me.
We're all in this together. :-)

Oh pleeeeese! do it! No one wants to second guess themselves when needing support. You are already in pain. Why beat yourself up over this.

Unless this is a way to distract yourself.. Something different to think about instead of what you are going thru. A subtle suggection to self to be stronger?

As you see. Its all good. Just keep going. Keep introspecting. Keep getiting better. There is no right or wrong way. XOXO

This place is great, but it has its down side too.... a lot of these people are in a lot of pain too, some of their support is filled and fired with hurt and emotion, so sometimes their feedback can also be very damaging as well as helpful... but what I found great is that I can come here, dump my feelings in a journal, seal it up or share it with all, I found that I am not alone in this adventure... but it is getting off of my shoulders... use it as a storage place to put your pain, your triumphs, your "learning experiences"... store them away, let them be in the past where they belong, don't throw them away, just store the thoughts and learn from them.... but learn to take this place for what it is, use what you can use, and leave the rest behind.