Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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giddy_eagle 09/08/2016

Desperate for attention. Desperate for intimacy. Desperate for romance. Desperate for sex.

I'm six months post DDay -- the shock has worn off, the anger has lessened, but the sadness and regret are still front and center. Quite by accident, I got drawn into an online relationship. It quickly flamed out because he was married. But it awoke me from my coma on both an emotional and physical level. I have been starved for affection and attention and am in a state of utter desperation, wanting to be wanted and kissed and held and loved and, and, and.

I know I'm not ready to date in this state, but I want a connection. I loved my nightly online chats with the married guy. I miss having a touchstone; someone to check in with at the end of the day.

I know I need to slow down and breathe, but this awakening has sent shockwaves through my soul and body. My desire is so strong its unnerving and uncomfortable; I feel completely vulnerable and naive.

Is this normal?

jimthzz 09/08/2016

it's normal got a deprived person to want attention.

But be careful that you needs don't cloud your judgment.

Lonestar 09/08/2016

I know how you feel. I'm in the same boat. I need validation that I am still a woman that someone would want. Plus, just holding hands with someone would be generate those endorphins people need to feel calm. I don't think dating is bad but don't jump into a new relationship and get serious too quick. I think that is an issue we all can have - trying to replace what we had too quick.

mirandac 09/08/2016

I never felt that way, i can not even imagine
Flirting or dating yet. I know my ex moved on
And has a GF now, i need to deal with me so
I can move thru it and get healthy. HUGS

MTGrl 09/08/2016

What you said made perfect sense to me.
I've been clean and sober for 7 years..before that I'd hippity hop from one relationship to the other. This has been my first relationship and breakup..clean and sober.
I want to do what's best..and healthiest for me..which means taking this time to grieve and heal from the wounds.

MTGrl 09/08/2016

However...those old habits are hard to break. I'm attractive with a flirty personality so its easy for me to gain men's attention. I'm making a conscious choice NOT to be flirty...even though the attention is a nice..momentary distraction.

mirandac 09/08/2016

I love men and i like to Joke around and tease.
I still do but its only With the right ones that are
safe. I still think And act Like a married woman.

i have lived the fast life When i was younger and
single. i want no part of that dysfunctional crazy
life ever Again it led no where good or healthy.
HUGS

giddy_eagle 09/08/2016

I haven't been with anyone besides my husband since 1988. And nothing with husband the last few years.

The point is that my heart no longer aches for him, but is in need of some attention. I'm like a bear coming out of hibernation -- HUNGRY!!

Eevee 09/09/2016

I think it's insulting that you're flirting with a married man.

Karma's a bitch.

11Christmases 09/09/2016

It sounds like you didn't know he was married and quickly ended it.
I can relate to the feelings of wanting a connection after a long marriage that ended. Some days are worse than others.

giddy_eagle 09/09/2016

Yes, I'm not interested in being the OW.

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