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I was listening to a local station in Philly and the morning crew was going on about Mel's rant to his girlfriend, playing the taped conversation. Well, several people called in with their stories and I was majorly triggered by what others said. The verbal abuse can be just as damning and vicious as physical abuse because the scars aren't visible, yet they remain much longer than any physical scar. Not that my ex was verbally abusive when we were married...ever...we never ever fought until the affair was discovered. Then I read his emails of what he said about me, how he played me for the almost year we went to counselling, and what he said to my face during our later arguments. He mentally made me think I could NOT afford to live on my own, still played my emotions (and still does) and make me think I could/would not leave the state with my kids b/c of what could happen. He made me afraid to do anything that could consitute it being wrong by the courts. I am still afraid of messing up (even just having a beer at my house) for fear of he will bring that into the custody. I am afraid he will badger me until I give in for 50/50 custody and goes about whistling in the house cuz he know he has me there. He will get what he wants. I am just saying the way Mel reacted to her was so damning. It's a power trip but why is so hard to get out of something like that? Not saying she's not a gold digger but a child is involved here, that should be taken into consideration.
" I feel bad for him. I don't know what his childhood was like, but it seems like it was seriously lacking in parental involvement. Sad that a life turned out like that.
Yeah, call me whatever you want. But I still see a helpless little baby and think that he deserved a better fate in life........"
You say "alleged" 2 time murderer, "I" say misguided bunny rabbit. Tomato, tomahhhtoooo!
*bear hug* for you
for entering into the relationship
staying for 3 years
recording the phonecalls
leaking them to Radaronline
as I recall, Rhianna got similar flack didn't she?
we have too strong a tendency I think to blame the victim of abuse
reminds me of the 70's when we used to blame the victims of rape
Its terrifying and sad to see someone disintegrate into sheer hate like this.
Road
This prolly blows any chance of Mad Max 4 now.
*joking, don't jump all over me, please
And like I said at the time, that it's NOT an excuse or doesn't mean that he deserves as much punishment as the law can throw at him.
But it does mean that I remember my kids as helpless babies and wish that he'd grown up to be a different sort of person. AND that his parent's (especially his Dad's) attitude toward him, most likely contributed or was entirely responsible for the fact that the boy/Man didn't take responsiblity for a darned thing in life.
So yeah, I feel bad for him.
And I'd like to see him get the death penalty. But will get no joy or satisfaction out of it.
ugh