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I laugh at you all the time....you will do well!

Maybe you should hold a pic of the smoking baby in front of you as you say it?

Maybe you could have a talk with my stbx about how to be a good dad.
I just found out my stbx has my two daughters involved in insurance fraud!

constantly question my parenting abilities / why is that.

You're clearly way too young to become a parent, but then so am I. My children are So much older than me, and know so much more. My daughter even calls me "baby Mama" and pats and comforts me.

Oh and **whiny voice**, I'm tired, I don't want to get up. I don't want to go to school, or clean up my room!!

OK, fit over, I have to get my homework done and get ready for class.

Get some better DS material. Then maybe they'll laugh.

Rman,

I do the same thing all the time... i wonder if i'm providing enough nurturing and love... am i being too strict with her or am i being too easygoing... i'm always worried that i'm going to do somethign wrong and she won't grow up the way she should and that it will be my fault. Having said that, the rational side of me says differently. I know that I love my daughter and, while i will make mistakes, she will grow up to be the person she is going to be, and all i can do is be there to help her grow.

i don't know, i hate to make a generalization based on gender, but this is what i've noticed... and it does seem to be a societal gender issue. Society tells us that men are not as good parents as women are, that we're not nurturers and that a child needs their mother to grow right... I don't agree with it, personally, but its what we've been raised to believe. I think that, possibly, because of this upbringing, men in particular, but single women as well, feel inadequate, and fear that we're not going to do things right...

again, its not right, conceptually i know that men are just as capable of raising a child by themselves as women are, but we've been taught for so long that women are nurturers and men are not, that theres those times that we fear that we may get it wrong...

i think that makes sence... does it come across clearly to you?

If you love them - I mean REALLY LOVE them - and then make every choice and decision from that point - you'll do fine. In fact, you will do perfect!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Seriously, I think the main components of good parents is that they Question themselves and stay involved.

None of us are perfect. And if you really think about it, Perfect Parents are the hardest to live up to. So I'm betting you're doing great.

Then again, I don't really know you. And being a baby, I'm betting you tend to throw your cereal everywhere. Thus that makes you a Cereal Killer, and that's not being a good parent....LOL.

you are going to question whether what you are doing is the right or wrong thing. It makes sense and shows you really are trying to provide the best for your girls. Those who don't question and just think they know what is right are those that are not truly providing an open environment for themselves and the kids to grow and bond.

We all question our parenting abilities. The fact that you are questioning your abilities means you are trying to be the best parent.

I know for a fact that I'm a rotten parent. I have simply accepted it and hope that the courts take that into account when they finally DO get arrested that they had a dreadful upbringing with a unacceptable role model.

ALC....zip it! You are a loving caring parent who does her best to provide and make things happen for your children. Damn it.

Rman: Your candor, love and sacrifice is a prelude to the love you have for your girls. They will take you as a good role model and choose someone who is devoted and that will do anything for them as their father did.

Anyone else need a piece of me?