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This is a new one for me..
Been Divorced for almost 1 year. Ex moved out and has been living in the basement apartment of a friends house. He invited me to see it before the kids stayed there. Dreary but okay and there is one big room that has 3 beds in it one for him and each of opur sons.
He is getting married to the OW in March. She has a 2 bedroom house and her son lives with her 1/2 of the time. They are planning to knock out a wall and make a room for my kids "after they are married". No room in her house for 2 more beds. No timeline on when that room will be ready.
Now he is planning to move into his Mothers 1 bedroom apt. while she goes to Florida for the Winter. No room for the kids beds there either.
So..his plan for the next 6 months, and however long it takes for the new room to be completed, is for my kids to sleep on the couch (doesn't pull out) or the floor.
He says that he needs to take a break from paying rent. He has 2 recreational vehicles that he pays for every month, has bought an engagement ring, is planning a wedding and a honeymoon to a destination that requires a passport.
He told me today that it was not that many years ago that kids slept 7 to a bed. That may be so..but my kids have never had to do that. For that..I am greatful.
The OW had a 3 bedroom house, sold it, and moved into this little house..knowing that she and my ex were going to get married and that he had 2 kids that would need a place to sleep.
I thought that I had thought of everything in my Divorce papers..never occured to me that I would need a Judge to tell my ex that he had to have a bed for the kids to sleep in.
What bothers me most is that my kids, who are not jumping up and down with joy over any of this, are being welcomed into his new life with " welcome to your new "other" home..grab a blanket and a spot on the floor".
Bottom line..I told him to forget it. They don't have to have thier own rooms but they have to have thier own beds. My oldest is 11..and needs at least that degree of privacy.
Am I being unreasonable???
Been Divorced for almost 1 year. Ex moved out and has been living in the basement apartment of a friends house. He invited me to see it before the kids stayed there. Dreary but okay and there is one big room that has 3 beds in it one for him and each of opur sons.
He is getting married to the OW in March. She has a 2 bedroom house and her son lives with her 1/2 of the time. They are planning to knock out a wall and make a room for my kids "after they are married". No room in her house for 2 more beds. No timeline on when that room will be ready.
Now he is planning to move into his Mothers 1 bedroom apt. while she goes to Florida for the Winter. No room for the kids beds there either.
So..his plan for the next 6 months, and however long it takes for the new room to be completed, is for my kids to sleep on the couch (doesn't pull out) or the floor.
He says that he needs to take a break from paying rent. He has 2 recreational vehicles that he pays for every month, has bought an engagement ring, is planning a wedding and a honeymoon to a destination that requires a passport.
He told me today that it was not that many years ago that kids slept 7 to a bed. That may be so..but my kids have never had to do that. For that..I am greatful.
The OW had a 3 bedroom house, sold it, and moved into this little house..knowing that she and my ex were going to get married and that he had 2 kids that would need a place to sleep.
I thought that I had thought of everything in my Divorce papers..never occured to me that I would need a Judge to tell my ex that he had to have a bed for the kids to sleep in.
What bothers me most is that my kids, who are not jumping up and down with joy over any of this, are being welcomed into his new life with " welcome to your new "other" home..grab a blanket and a spot on the floor".
Bottom line..I told him to forget it. They don't have to have thier own rooms but they have to have thier own beds. My oldest is 11..and needs at least that degree of privacy.
Am I being unreasonable???
you are not wrong here!
He just moved the kids right out of his life-Beds and All!!!
Of all the self serving CRAP!!!
When we were going through ALL of this with All of the kids (way back when) EVERYONE HAD BEDS!!! We sacrificed to keep a house that was large enough for our FAMILY. That came First.
Thing that gets me is she HAD a house with a room for them and SOLD it ???
11 yr old is sitting on the fence with his Dad and is already uncomfortable with the OW. Told my ex this is his chance to involve the kids. Give them a damn hammer and let them take the first hit on that wall. Let them be a part of making that home someplace that they might actually want to go to.
DEAF EARS.....