A good percentage of people DO NOT accept this at all. If your not open to it then get out of the relationship.

I dont know if your being asked to be in one or what, but I have only heard of very few actually working out. I personnally would NEVER take part in one! I do NOT share with anyone and do not want to be shared. For lack of better words people that are in open relationships have very little respect for commitment! IMHO

I know quite a few gray have open relationships. They range from swinging to whatever.
It's not my thing at all.

Oops.. Auto correct.. I meant to say, I know couples that have open relationships from swinging to whatever.

I respect people who chose to do it, but personally I wouldn't want that in a relationship. To me I could just be single why be with someone and swing. My opinion but not judging anyone at all.

i honestly don't know, because i could never accept that. no matter what. can i ask why you pose this question? if you don't want to share that's fine, i was just curious where this was coming from

I cant figure it out. This guy I have been talking to who I think is a player keeps telling me he is single but dating so he is free to see and sleep with whomever he wants. On his facebook his daughter had posted something about his new GF so I asked him about it and he said he is in a open relationship meaning he can still sleep with me. I was shocked. There are other girls on his FB book that he that he goes out with and has relations with & they all know about each other. He is with one one week when she doesnt have her kids and the other the next. And its like no big deal with them. I get upset / jealous when I know he is with them much less knowing they are sleeping together.

If it makes you jealous it's not the situation for you and for your own good I would leave this guy alone...

At least he's being honest with you and not trying to hide it. People are entitled to do be in whatever kind of relationship works for them, provided both parties give their consent. If this style of relationship bothers you (and trust me, if you have any feelings for the guy, it will definitely continue to bother you), get out of it ASAP. Friends with benefits situations rarely work out. Someone always gets hurt!

those ppl are simply playing around with "sensual pleasure" without any string/constraint that typical "relationship " brings. They are simply seeking "fun activities" without placing any constraints on oneself and onto others involved.
They do not place "Feelings" onto themselves nor to other involved which explains how they easily do it with others and move around.
This is ok as long as ppl who are involved in this this kind of relationship knows the "rules/nature" of the relationship (what to expect, what the person is doing) and possible consequences of living a life in such way.
Its their life and as long as they are not playing with someone other innocent ppl) who think otherwise (ppl who belive in meaningful, genuine relationship, sharing feelings etc...) than i think its ok.
If you are someone who has "feelings" (most humans are) and even more so in the relationship, you should stay away. the world they are living/playing will be very different to yours.
The thing im worried about is this "player's daughter", how she is going to grow up looking at what her father is doing...she will probably grow up thinking that what her father is doing is "Normal/Typical" in the relationship..... and then she will go to school with that sort of idea/belief possibly influencing other kids around through her words/action..... like disease sprading...
one cannot underestimate the "interconnection" between ppl, how ppl can influence one another through their behaviours...
I know that you know these kind of relationship is wrong, but if you keep staying with them, interact with these ppl, you will start to think that over time, what they are doing is normal. This is because, if anyone were to keep seeing/ hearing/feeling something repeatedly/frequently, it somewhat becomes "normal" in their view. (somewhat unconsciously "brainwashed")

For example, lets say you are in part of group of close friends, someone whom you see/interact on daily basis... if they all wore... "lady gaga's style of clothing" (for example) everyday... you who see and interact with them on daily basis, can you say your style of clothing won't be affected by them ? for few reason.. because you want to blend into the group (form of acceptance..) or because you got used to their taste hence it became "normal" for you (influenced unconsciously) etc...
This is actually one of the main reason why some parents get actively involved when their kids make friends at school. the reason being is the "friends circle" has huge influence (they set moral standards, what is right/normal thing to do and what is not etc...) on their kid's view/beliefs which effect their attitude and hence their life. when they hit puberty, regardless of gender, they push away parents and stay lot more close to friends which amplify friend's influence on kid's life.

The things is, what one see/hear/feel "often" in their lives become their "norm".

If you do not believe/understand what they are doing, then stop interact with them. if you keep them in your lives, they will have "influence" on you, (at least unconsciously....)
You need to know that there is a "cost" for having these sort of relatioship. its true they will have lot of sensual pleasure without any constraint hence there is a freedom but having fun at the same time. but having them often with many other stranger depreciates value/meaning/depth in one's life as there are no feelings involved. there is no intrinsic value, its just a mere "surface" touch of genuine happiness which can only arises from authenticity of feelings. By living such lives, they are making their own lives shallow and empty, they are numbing their own feelings and feelings of other who interect with them. its like a plastic mannequin. not having a feelings is like not having a soul. there is nothing inside... within themselves and the "activites" they do. I also think there is cost in terms of mental/psychological effect on one's mind. i mean think about it... even if one do get into bed with someone without any feelings, the intimacy it involves in such "activites" (mingling bodies, sharing warms and embracing one another in private/personal level), how can there be no feelings to one another on personal level ? can ppl who do these sort of things can possible have "right" mind ?. .. its like they are doing something that "naturally" requires lot of feelings for one another but they are doing it without one....

ppl who do not respect their body or feelings cannot respect themselves. those who cannot respect themselves cannot respect others

Yuck,
open relationship >>> oxymoron

Many polyamorous people have successful, happy relationships. The issues spring up when one who practices polyamory becomes involved with one who does not.
If you do not believe in, or are comfortable with polyamory, then leave him alone.
Neither of you are wrong, just different people with different wants and needs.

I do not talk to any of the them but him. I am just really confused on the whole situation when I asked him about these other girls. On his face book it says he is in a complicated relationship and when we first started talking I asked him about it and he said he has a friends with benefits and she is aware of what is going on. Then he tells me they are taking a break and now he is talking to this other girl who is daughter is referring to as his new GF which who he had an affair with while she was married and why her marriage dissolved. But they have been on and off. When I seen his daughter had posted that she was his new GF I asked him if he was in a relationship and he said a open relationship. Meaning he can see who ever he wants.
He isn't allowed to be around this lady's children so its week on and week off. I am just so confused because he is always either flirty and always texting me or then the opposite.

I am not into open relationships, but I think the people stating it shows a lack of feelings and respect are being too critical. There are all kinds of lifestyles, and I'm sure if the "right" one is called to the carpet, people would up in arms.

I mean, not every relationship has to be the typical husband and wife routine....Thank god.

Simply tell him what you will and will not accept in a relationship with him. If you do not want to be in a relationship where you KNOW that he is having sex with other people while still seeing you, then tell him, and move on.

I am not wired for that type of relationship. I can be friends with a lot of different people, but I can't be romantically involved with more than one.