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Only two months, but its like yesterday

MemphisWH
MemphisWH

Its been over two months since I broke it off with my EX, and my EX continues to text,call, and message me. I have her blocked, and weekly learn new ways and accounts to block her.


I never reply or respond to her.


Last Friday, I was checking my FB racing page( I am a race car driver) , I saw I had a bunch of messages which was cool, but  it was from an anonymous user, of course they all were from her.


I should not have, but I read them all, almost two weeks of daily messages. They were love bombs, accusations, excuses, sorrys, photos, pleads, how sad she was, how all couples cheat and lie and begging.


This put me in a tailspin and I was sick and depressed all weekend. I stayed in bed all weekend... I had no drive or ambition. I was thankful for work, to help me out of the funk, but I am struggling to focus at work.


Just venting,  hoping to see a brighter day.


broken101
broken101
No not everyone cheats and lies.if you keep moving forward you will see brighter days
serenityspeaks
serenityspeaks
Take it one day at a time. It will get better and you will feel better. If possible refrain from all social media acct. I did this during my breakup and once things calmed it was better. Take care of yourself.
Gregory1
Gregory1
You will be fine. Give yourself time to heal and move forward.
Eliza02
Eliza02
You deserve and the rest of us deserve days where we feel productive and focused on our work, whatever that may be.

Tomorrow is another day, let's be thankful we have work to distract and remind us the world goes on.
Glad2Help
Glad2Help
If I were in such a spot I would need to vent as well. So, keep on venting otherwise it will explode. It seems that your problem is mainly getting her to stop bothering you and I agree with the advice given above. Stay out and clear and do not read her messages again. You need to erase her from your mind, get rid of photos and pictures (delete, archive, or hide them) so you can focus at work. If you can, a short vacation or trip might help you, not only for a change of scenery but to hang out with other people, even strangers.
faithfulmusiclover
faithfulmusiclover
Take it slow and you are doing the right thing by cutting all ties! It usually happens that way after a person messes up. I know from experience how they try to rope you back in. Keep moving forward and posting here! I haven't been on here long, but I see people are very supportive and give great advice! Take time and all will heal!
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