Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
There is something extra depressing about breaking down in tears after almost a week of keeping it together and doing okay. I have been powering through and whenever i start to feel sad i am able to turn it around and either workout or remind myself why it didnt work and get myself distracted until the feeling passes. Today i took graduation photos and i dont know if it was because several things went wrong today but today i lost my cool. I posted a grad pic and his sister messaged me saying that i am perfect and deserve the world. That just broke my heart because i am far from perfect but because i realized how close i was to his family and how much i really loved them as if they really were my own family. I even called his mom, mom. I feel so foolish. That did it, it was triggering and i wasnt able to handle it. I broke down and cried after a week of doing pretty ok. That makes it that much more discouraging. Break ups suck and i just wish the sadness would go away and stay gone. I am supposed to be happy and excited about graduation and all i can think about is he wont be there to share my special moment with me, and we wont be moving on to a next chapter together, itll just be me. Today was tough and i have a billion things i needed to do today and sulking was not one of them, but i cant seem to shake the saddness today. I hate that i still miss him, still hope to see his number pop up on my phone. Hate that i wish he'd come running back and beg for me back. I hate that i still care how he feels, and i want him to miss me too. I thought that i was finally starting to get the hang of being alone and getting used to my own company but tonight feels extra lonely.
I assume he started drinking as soon as I got on the plane. That was why we separated because of his drinking. Now I lay here wondering what I have done and mad at myself for being so weak. I opened up a can of worms and don't know what to do. I hope your L onliness dissipates and mine too.
I am feeling all of those things right now. After having two very good days during the week, I have had a very rough couple of days. I feel derailed by my break-up, I miss him more than I can say and obsess about what he might be thinking or feeling. I can't make my brain stop but I have to try to focus on the fact that I had two good days last week and not all days will be as bad as today. There's nothing wrong with crying when you need to. It is a therapeutic release. You'll get through this and you are not alone. xx
Even during our separation before o found out he actually was seeing someone else we would talk all the time ( i thought we could still work things out). But now that I know he was lying. It hurts to look at him or talk to him knowing thatwe are not going to be together again. All I can do today is cry and miss him. All I wanted was for him to come back to me.