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pattongb 03/19/2008

Seriously.

Its been 2 months. She is an executive at a big company and is making a lot of money. She has a Masters degree. She is only 28 and has a full life of big money and advancement ahead of her.

So why do I feel like I got the better of the deal? Seriously, I dont know what it is, but lately I feel like she set me free. Im never gonna live the life of luxury I could have had with her. Im never gonna be known as "her husband" again, which made everyone proud of me. Yet I feel like im gonna be happier. Im gonna live my life again.

So shouldn't I feel like a loser for losing someone so much better than me education and job wise? Why do I feel like this is gonna be the best time of my life? Am I in a stage?

deleted_user 03/19/2008

Acceptance is a wonderful thing, isn't it Patton? You may not feel like this every day this early in the healing but today that is what it is and I bet it feels great:) Kimmee

deleted_user 03/19/2008

In a way, you've been given a new lease on life.

The feelings of euphoria may go away in time, but I'd say enjoy it brother.

If you gauge how you're doing based on -your- circumstances, you'll always be much happier than trying to compare it to someone else's.

deleted_user 03/19/2008

amen! i am so proud of you!!

deleted_user 03/19/2008

It really dosn't matter, how much money she makes, education or job title.That should not make you feel, like a loser. They are all material things. My stbx is wealthy, Mr Hotshot in his job, we have travelled the world,and yes I could of,like youself had a great life. But they are all material things. At the end of the day.

deleted_user 03/19/2008

Money doesn't keep you warm at night..

deleted_user 03/19/2008

no you are not in a stage, I think you know "what its all about" its not how much money you have, or how big your title is at work. when its all over, its about who you are as a person, your character. not how much money you have..
good luck..

deleted_user 03/19/2008

You only mention her education and job and money and her age. You haven't said one thing about losing someone beautiful inside or out. That to me is your answer then. (unless you omitted the 'real' beautiful things about her)

So enjoy the hope of finding someone you can love in every way. It's exciting!

hugs

patti22 03/19/2008

Exactly what Emerald said, in the end it doesn't matter why they checked out of the marriage: drinking, drugs, job, whatever.

kidsintowe03 03/19/2008

if you value monitary things over the true value of humanity then I guess you should feel like a loser..but instead, we are fortunate to have you here as a solid individual who values life, love and friendships

deleted_user 03/19/2008

Give me freedom over a new car any day.

deleted_user 03/19/2008

I suspect that your happiness comes from not having to define yourself by her accomplishments.

FrankTheGreat 03/19/2008

Maybe you're feeling good because you're discovering yourself again. You're no longer going to be "the successful/smart/wonderful woman's husband."

You'll just be who you always were. And that's a great thing.

deleted_user 03/19/2008

just because she has an education and has a good paying job does not mean she is better than you or that you deserve someone with the same education and same wages as you are making, it's what is inside a person that counts, i made a lot more money than my ex-boyfriend, but i never looked at it that way, we were supposed to be a team. i'm really glad that your feeling good about things though, your moving on and making a better life for yourself. it does not matter what degree of education or how much money you make. it's you as a person and what is inside your heart and soul.

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