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I noticed something last week. I am really starting to enjoy being responsible for my own place. I enjoy paying my own bills. I like cooking for myself, and for my boys when they are here. I enjoy going to bed when I want, getting up when I want.
Im still hurting a lot. I still miss my family and my wife.
But there are times I can see, that living on my own gives me strength and a feeling of importance and value. My stbx did everything for me. All the bills, most the house cleaning, making appts.
I used to get a planner every so often to try and work with her on keeping appts and stuff, and she would laugh at me and say "I give it a week and you wont even know where that thing is."
She was always right. I couldnt use a planner for more than a week.
But the day I moved out I got one. Ive used it EVERY day since then. In fact its in front of me now. Lately ive been the one making all the appts. for our boys. Even bringing them to their appts.
I know I can live alone. I dont want to, but I know now I can do it.
Im still hurting a lot. I still miss my family and my wife.
But there are times I can see, that living on my own gives me strength and a feeling of importance and value. My stbx did everything for me. All the bills, most the house cleaning, making appts.
I used to get a planner every so often to try and work with her on keeping appts and stuff, and she would laugh at me and say "I give it a week and you wont even know where that thing is."
She was always right. I couldnt use a planner for more than a week.
But the day I moved out I got one. Ive used it EVERY day since then. In fact its in front of me now. Lately ive been the one making all the appts. for our boys. Even bringing them to their appts.
I know I can live alone. I dont want to, but I know now I can do it.
My stbx has been emailing me all day about my sons bday on friday.
First she asks me "can you pick up his gift when you have time?"
I say sure.
Then she asks "well how about baking a cake for his party on friday?"
I say, you know I love to bake, no problem.
LOL then she emails AGAIN, and says "ok well I dont want to ask to much but how about making cupcakes for his class for friday?"
I email back, "I got it covered."
When we were married, she wouldnt have even asked me to help; then she would have gotten mad at me later for not appreciating her for it enough.
But taking the kids to their weekly music class or sports night, or even doing the homework with them. I am happy to do these things and enjoy them. Different things that use to be what my wife did and i am doing now make me glad that I am being a better person and growing from it.
Kuddos to you my friend! Way to go.
but my wife bought eggs because my daughter likes to bake, and I cant bake worth shit. Since I leave Thursday afternoon, maybe Wednesday night will be daddy daughter bake night =o
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Some of that is true.
But the irony is that I had lived alone before I met her, she still lived with mom and dad. I know how to be alone. Now that we are seperated, I have my own place and NOONE ever stays here when my kids arent here.
But she has had her boyfriend with her every single night since the night I moved out (when I found him in my wifes bathroom). She has not spent a single day of her life alone.
Sometimes I even feel a bit sorry for her, knowing that she is jumping into something so serious without ever finding out about herself first.
But then I think of how she treated me during this whole mess and I stop feeling sorry real fast. :)