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I think that i'm getting obsessive thoughts about my ex :(
When we were together, she made friends with this champion tai-boxing guy, and one night we went out and she ignored me completely to talk to this guy. She said that she was angry at the time and treated me badly on purpose because i was acting jealous.
When she broke up with me, she said that it was because she needed to work on herself and told me that no one else was involved. I have deleted her from all my contacts, but recently i saw that her roommate and best friend just became facebook friends with this same guy. Is it just me? Am i going mad and having obsessive thoughts, because i feel like she is sleeping with this guy. Why would her roommate be friends with this guy, unless he has come round to sleep over or something? I know that her roommate is studying for exams and doesn't have time to go out.
I can't get this out of my head and i feel like i can't breathe when i think about it. I want to demand answers from her, but questioning her will make me look terrible, what if i'm wrong?
Do you people think i'm wrong? Or that I'm acting crazy?
I know that you will probably say that i need to get over it, but I already feel rejected enough, having been rejected because of some champion muscle boxer guy too? I feel like i need to know the truth.
Is that too much to ask for? It seems like the lies keep pouring in from her suddenly from nowhere... She told me that she made out with someone else 7 months ago because she was angry at me after an argument... All these things have come from nowhere? Where is this girl that i knew? I don't know what to believe anymore.
When we were together, she made friends with this champion tai-boxing guy, and one night we went out and she ignored me completely to talk to this guy. She said that she was angry at the time and treated me badly on purpose because i was acting jealous.
When she broke up with me, she said that it was because she needed to work on herself and told me that no one else was involved. I have deleted her from all my contacts, but recently i saw that her roommate and best friend just became facebook friends with this same guy. Is it just me? Am i going mad and having obsessive thoughts, because i feel like she is sleeping with this guy. Why would her roommate be friends with this guy, unless he has come round to sleep over or something? I know that her roommate is studying for exams and doesn't have time to go out.
I can't get this out of my head and i feel like i can't breathe when i think about it. I want to demand answers from her, but questioning her will make me look terrible, what if i'm wrong?
Do you people think i'm wrong? Or that I'm acting crazy?
I know that you will probably say that i need to get over it, but I already feel rejected enough, having been rejected because of some champion muscle boxer guy too? I feel like i need to know the truth.
Is that too much to ask for? It seems like the lies keep pouring in from her suddenly from nowhere... She told me that she made out with someone else 7 months ago because she was angry at me after an argument... All these things have come from nowhere? Where is this girl that i knew? I don't know what to believe anymore.
MS is exactly right.
I wonder how many men she will go through before she figures out that NO man can make her happy. Happy comes from with inside oneself.
It is completely over, She did it in a bad way, and couldn't even talk to me face to face but that's just how it happened. The good memories hurt me still, and probably for some time, but it's completely over, there will never be hope for a reunion. I suppose that what she does is her business. She made the choice to cut me out and that's what happened.
One thing though; when i said that she was the best girlfriend i ever had, she laughed and said that she really wasn't. I guess in the end she must have been really guilty and i suppose i don't wanna know what she did to me at the end.
I will rise again. thanks people
My focus has not been on me so much, but definitely more recently than before. With the therapy, self help books and now antidepressants I think that it is at least about me and not "her"
It's not easy is it? I'm too used to being in a relationship, and what i thought was the perfect one too (turned out to be wrong on that one).
Today was the first time I went about my business on my own (i.e. without friend support) It didn't feel very good to be honest, but it's a very slow start.
I suppose that the reason why I'm so down is not just because of the breakup but more my overall situation, without a job and soon a place to live as well as everything else. Sometimes it's easier to focus on what "she" is doing since my life isn't exactly panning out that great right now.
I'm trying, be patient with me.
Thanks
Whatever comes, let it come. You'll get past that too.
Obviously you have two other concerns to deal with as well in regards to employment and a place to live. Focus on getting those resolved and I think that will put you in a little better place.
Remember to take the information and comments that you want on here and don't get too discouraged. I will add you to my daily prayer list. May God have mercy on everyone here.....and help us heal and have better lives soon.