i Still wann know if you have a sister LoL

Ok, She sounds like shes a waitress at the strip bar. and he waited around for her to give her a ride. WHich means, your husband is straying. Either way, it doesnt help that youre ok with him going to the nudie bar. And if he was cheating, that number would have been listed under a different persons name (Unfortunately one of my old cheating tactics).

You being ok with this has caused it to go this way. Leave a crack addict at a crack house long enough, and he'll have a taste.

Sweeet,

They ride a giraffe home. Duh :P

for the record I have never been OK with my husband going to a nude bar. I just found that part out this morning (4AM)He had been telling me he was stopping at a bar after work. Which I was mad about anyway because coming home at midnight drunk is not on my list of acceptable things to do. It just kinda got really worse in the last month. Today I did further research of his bank statements and found he was charging 33 and 66 dollar increments and one for 132 last month at POLO CHAMP whatever that is. Over 300$ last month for those prices, some nights 2 times of 66. WHat in the hell could he be buying for 66? Anyway, I kicked him out this morning.He swears and she swears nothing was happening. I think at best he was building up to it, and I can never trust him. He is covering up and lying too much. The bars close at 2am, what in the heck was he doing until 4 and 430am if hes so innocent.

Very good question! I am really afraid that is has not all been that innocent!

One thing at a time. Call your credit card and find out what POLO CHAMP is... should have a number/physical location where the charge was made. Then, go from there, wherever that leads you.

So all of this is so out of the blue? So NOT his personality? You have been married 20 years... this is why I ask...

Fixing the tire? lmao....good job on the research and kicking him, you are good....will take some tips from you. Good job! He deserved. 66 dollars sound like a cheap motel or something, hard to say....no good anyway.
Big hug, better days ahead than behind.

"He swears and she swears nothing was happening."

Yeah, right. Just like my stbx said, "We're only talking." Geez, they must think we're morons.

Good for you kicking him out. Keep digging for evidence. You may need it for court if it gets that far.

Hugs to you. I know this has to be devastating.

I rarely drink, he used to rarely drink, but end of August he started stopping at "bar" after work once or twice a week(said he was waiting out traffic). end of september he was going 2-3 times a week. first week of october it was every nightcoming home with alcohol breath.oct 10 he comes in at 430, I kick him out. I stupidly let him back on the 18th. 23rd he stays out until midnight.He was super nice and helpfull all week, with lots of I LUV YOU's
then he pulls this crap last night. I cant live like this. All weekend I asked him for us to go out. he said we were too broke, although I offered to pay. 4am this morning I get the "I didnt tell you about the party because I knew you didnt like stuff like that" I cant swear she works at the strip club but she was there last night, he drove her home, and he said he met her a couple weeks ago....

You are good...will kick some ass upon request? Well done. He earned it. Jerks never just get their share, they EARN IT, with hard work of jerk time...lol....you rock!

my opinion.. if he has her name and number actually saved in a cell phone knowing you can find it.. he isnt trying to hide it... like the others said I would just ask whats going on... you know him better than anyone after 20 yrs of marriage... you will be able to tell if he is lying..

as far as rides home from the bar... that would concern me more than the cell phone... I would definitely question..(not confront) that one!..

Good Luck!

So after getting more of the story it sounds to me like you are wanting validation that you did the right thing? I hope you don't think we were making light of your thread, but the story started out innocent enough and then took a really big turn once more started coming out.

I for one think there is obviously something going on. If the bars close at 2am and he didn't get home until 4:30, I highly doubt they were sitting at Dennys discussing their lives.

You are doing the right thing in protecting yourself. You don't need a husband that is doing this to you emotionally.

I researched POLO CHAMP and it is a theme based program on MySpace.

i dont think thats (my space)where the money is going. He's not very computer literate, not big into music. 45 yo white male.also, its his bank statements and they say polo champ dn n charleston. I dont know if dn stands for anything, might be downtown north charleston, but I cant find any establishment of that name... altthogh if he left the computer here I will definitely be doing forensics on it. I'm an IT professional.

I am so very sorry for the pain you are feeling. Trust your gut. Protect yourself finacially. Watch for money disappearing. I am crying for you my friend because I know that you have a gut feeling about this and that it is not right. I hope I am very, very wrong!

Oh my gosh, I just read some of the recent posts. I see that you believe your husband is not very computer literate. It pains me to tell you that there are predatory women out there that will teach him all he needs to know and how to keep it secret.

Get to an attorney and protect yourself.


I am so sorry that the man you trusted may have betrayed you. That is not right. That is not forgivable. But, that is sadly a common (read base, despicable, disgusting) fact.

Margie