Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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We are both 42
35 years of knowing him - classmates, friends, neighbors ( since we were 7)
I fell in love with him when i was 18 /19 (never told him) , he says the same. He did not ask me out as he was not sure how I would react.
We were then out of touch and married different people 12 years back...had bad marriages .
Both separated about 8 years back, he did not get a formal divorce, I did
He had 2 kids (10 & 8 - younger was born after he separated)
15 years of being best friend
7 years of a committed relationship , she does not know about me and we have not lived together. The relationship is emotional than anything else.
4 months of breakup, he broke up when his wife sent the kids to live with him (he told me he could not handle our relationship).
Yesterday he told me his wife was moving in with him in because he cannot live without the kids !
She moves in tomorrow ......
I knew this was coming ever since she sent the kids to live with him ....
feel completely Numb !
35 years of knowing him - classmates, friends, neighbors ( since we were 7)
I fell in love with him when i was 18 /19 (never told him) , he says the same. He did not ask me out as he was not sure how I would react.
We were then out of touch and married different people 12 years back...had bad marriages .
Both separated about 8 years back, he did not get a formal divorce, I did
He had 2 kids (10 & 8 - younger was born after he separated)
15 years of being best friend
7 years of a committed relationship , she does not know about me and we have not lived together. The relationship is emotional than anything else.
4 months of breakup, he broke up when his wife sent the kids to live with him (he told me he could not handle our relationship).
Yesterday he told me his wife was moving in with him in because he cannot live without the kids !
She moves in tomorrow ......
I knew this was coming ever since she sent the kids to live with him ....
feel completely Numb !
Lonelygal, sorry things are tough for you right now, and hoping you can get out of this "stuck" place soon! Talking about it will probably help a lot, I know that verbalizing things often helps me sort them out in my own mind. And I have been stuck in my thinking more than once or twice, lol. We all get to have our own individual tough spots, but from those tough spots we can emerge as smarter and improved persons. As horrible as my divorce was, coming out of it in one piece has resulted in me having a much happier life - hope that happens for you too :)
I hope he returns my stuff (a diamond ring I left behind by mistake washing my hands in his bathroom ) and money he borrowed few years back. He can keep all other gifts I gave him. I also want to return a pair of diamond earings he gifted me few years ago as I do not feel right keeping them. I do not want to create an issue at his place by mailing it to him.
Do advise.
Great to hear advice from all the wondetful people here !
Gives me strength.
and myself?
funny, I thouight I was asking the OP about her feelings and thoughts, and I was certain I was posrting about her issue.
weird how misunderstandings happen, eh?
anyway, lonelygal, I hope things turn out OK for you
I wonder if he ever really broke it off with her?
Seven years is a long time for her not to have gotten over him, and him over her. I'd be running for the hills.
Or maybe I'm reading the situation wrong.
As for hurt, I understand that.
He asked me to meet him for coffee yesterday - we met for half an hour and we spoke mostly on work related stuff but while leaving I asked him if he had come to break up, he said he was not think about anything apart from his kids's welfare.
He says his kids were getting psychologically impacted and that is why he needed her to move back.
I came back and was not at all affected or upset and do not think I will meet him or call him again.